How can you be both perfect and have a real standard in marriage – Mehr News Agency | Iran and world’s news
According to the Mehr correspondent, Hojjatoleslam “Mohsen Abbasi Valadi” in the program “Non-Stop” pointed out that the spiritual criteria of each person for marriage should be defined in accordance with the goals of his life, said: I have enough, his relationship with God has nothing to do with me, so he must marry someone who has the same characteristics or someone for whom prayer is important can not marry someone who کاهل It is prayer.
He explained how it is possible to be both perfectionist and have real criteria: Our definition of real criterion is that we are going to choose in the same society and from the same people, incidentally one of the pillars of perfectionism is realism, perfection It should be your favorite point, if you consider the peak, you can not jump, you have to go through the steps, our criteria must be graded, the first degree criterion means that a person does not feel happy and can not live without them, the second degree criteria are preferable criteria are.
The university professor also clarified: In the field of perfectionism, we also say degree criteria یکتان Choose that alignment as the main criterion for recognizing being first class. If you can have a successful marriage that brings peace. This peace is the basis for your growth. Given its value and involvement in marriage, how many of the criteria we think of fit in with the philosophy of marriage, which is to achieve peace? If That’s right Let’s see, many of these criteria are removed and some of the criteria are devalued.
Abbasi Valadi, pointing out that young people whose first criterion is appearance has considered something that does not have much effect on their peace and harmony in marriage, said: “If a man is eye-catching and constantly sees different faces, even if his wife is 20, he is still satisfied.” It will not be, really Minus People’s view of how important these apparent differences can be, be mindful. You want to choose someone with whom you will manage your generation until the Day of Judgment. Love And Love is added.
He continued: If a woman is good-natured and kind, pays attention to her mother and her life, is satisfied, maintains the authority and dignity of the man, even if her appearance score is 12 for مردش She is much more beautiful than a beautiful woman who does not have these characteristics. Part of the charm and beauty برمی An emotional connection with the other party, if a man thinks that his wife is almost perfect in moral character and has no serious objections but can not seem to love her, he must find the problem in himself and correct himself.
The lifestyle researcher also noted that if he lives with someone who has a face score of 20, his wife’s moral virtues still cannot fill his eyes after his wife’s face is repeated. The important thing is that I miss my wife, her distance is hard for me, her sadness upsets me, it is important even if others say we do not fit together.
He emphasized For that I believe that in choosing, the character of the other side should be seen in a package, he said: This package can have three dimensions, the thoughts and ideas of the other side, his spirits and temperaments and his appearance. This person should be attractive to me in this series, not the face alone, but when it comes to the average of spirits and thoughts, give a person a score that covers the flaws of the face. But be aware that we do not have any doubts or jokes about the first-class criteria, thinking that we can change sides and act according to our own criteria.
The family counselor concluded: “In marriage, we should have an orderly mind about criteria such as rulers about choices, and this ruler should be with us, because without these criteria, formal and traditional courtship is useless.”
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