Being a father according to a hero / I can not hug my children but I live for them

Life group; زینب نادعلی: We had to go to their house to interview a young couple. We got in the car and left with my colleague. As soon as I got in the car, the long sticks in the back seat caught my attention. But I tried to focus on the leading interview. I moved my canes a little and sat down on a chair. We were in the middle of the road when my colleague asked the driver, “Why do you only use one of your legs?” The driver laughed and said, “That one is out of order. “I’m desperate!” The riddle of the ownerless canes on the chair was now solved for me. I have not seen a few people who shrugged off their responsibilities with a healthy body under any pretext. But this time in front of me was a father who, despite his problems and illness, was working hard for the peace and comfort of his family. The one I wanted to name as the father of the hero!

The ups and downs of this father’s life have an interesting narrative that, although it may seem bitter, he tells them all the time with a smile and enthusiasm. “She is 42 years old and married,” he said. I have two children. My daughter is 14 years old and my son is 7 years old. I found out about my illness in 1988, 12 years ago, when my daughter was 2 years old. My legs became numb, I could not walk and I fell. I gradually lost my balance and could not walk easily. I used to be a railway employee and also worked as a blacksmith. As time went on and my illness progressed, I lost my job. I never wanted to be unemployed for a day, but it is hard work for people with my condition. I was not disappointed and decided to go for a driver’s license. “Little by little, I bought a car in installments and became a driver.”

It was as if I had faced death earlier!

It was very hard in the beginning. Imagine a person who is very hardworking. It does everything. He goes to work. He plays football. He walks and comes all the way. Sleep at night all at once and in the morning he can not even get up! It was and is very hard. In the first days, it was as if I was facing death. Especially for me, who was so lively, I do not remember sitting on the floor for a minute. I was always doing something. This situation was also difficult for the family. I even explained the situation to my wife many times and said, “Can you live with me in this situation?” But fortunately my wife stayed with me.

My family is my main motivation for trying

Life is always flowing. You can not say that because I am sick I have to sit and not work. I am currently the head of the family. If I were alone, I might not have the motivation to try, but my family hopes for me. This makes me work hard even in the face of illness. I never thought I would even get sick, let alone lose my legs. But for whatever reason this happened to me. The important thing is to manage the situation and not let it interrupt my life.

I can not hug my children!

I always wanted to go for walks with my children, to walk together. Let’s run and play. Let’s play football together and have fun. But I can not even stand on my feet and walk. As a child, I wanted to hug them, but I could not because I was out of balance. Of course, my son and daughter come in my arms as I sit, sit on my feet, and thus express our love for each other.

My son always says that father means the mountain of endurance!

The children understand the situation very well and try to do everything they can for my comfort, even very small things. They bring me tea. I’m tired, they bring me a pillow. Sometimes when I want to go to the bathroom or another room, my son runs quickly and turns on the light for me. They do whatever they can for me. My son always says that father means the mountain of endurance!

I try my best to make my family live well

It is strange for some people that I go to work despite my illness and they say that you are very zealous! But I think it’s my job. It is the duty of a father and a husband to provide comfort for their spouses and children. I work from morning till night. All this is for my family to live well.

I got my certificate so that my daughter would not see me fall!

My daughter was 6 years old when we went out in the car of an acquaintance. I could not control myself when I got off. My legs were numb and as soon as I wanted to get off, I fell to the ground. The first image I saw of a bad fall. It was my daughter’s teary eyes and her sadness. That’s when I told myself that I should get my certificate anyway and take my daughter myself so that she would not see me fall and fall.

My daughter and son are proud of me

In my opinion, man should show himself right, if I always express my sadness and weakness. I can say that I can not walk and I am always complaining and complaining about my illness. My children also subconsciously consider me a weak person in their minds. But I never acted in a way that made me feel helpless and hopeless, and I passed that feeling on to my family. Maybe that’s why my daughter and son love me so much and are proud of me.

Being a father is not hard. Being a father is fun!

Although being a father is really a difficult responsibility in this day and age, it is also very enjoyable. How many people you feel love you. They consider you as their support and when you are at work, several people are waiting for you at home. It is very pleasant and conveys a good feeling to a person.

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