Couples should remember this important point

According to Fars news agency’s health reporter, Seyedah Masoumeh Tabatabaei, a psychologist, talked about the strategies and methods of strengthening emotional literacy on Sima channel 5.

Tabatabai said: Our mental image is that a social person who can communicate with everyone has high emotional literacy. If emotional literacy means expressing the right feelings, in the right place.

He added: The first step to having emotional literacy is to know our dominant emotions and manage them. For example, someone who is always kind should be able to control this kindness depending on the circumstances. Or in front of someone who is always angry, he should learn to show this anger in the right place.

Tabatabai stated: After knowing our feelings and managing them, we must also identify the feelings of our other party. In basic psychology, we are based on the notebook of the mind. Our mental notebook contains all our feelings and emotions. In order to be emotionally literate, we must learn to open this notebook of the mind for our other party.

He further said: Many believe that if their partner is interested enough in them, he should know all their characteristics and morals and be aware of them. While it is our duty to help the other party to know us better. We must keep in mind that no one can read our mind.

In the end, Tabatabai said: We must accept the fact that marriage is not a man-making factory. It means that you cannot choose him as your life partner in the hope of changing the person and a better tomorrow. Each person has his own characteristics and we cannot change these characteristics in general.

He said: Therefore, we must either accept a person with all his good and bad qualities, or give up our choice.

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