Friendship between a girl and a boy does not necessarily lead to marriage – Mehr News Agency | Iran and world’s news
According to the Mehr correspondent, the “Cheragh” program of the Panj Sima network this week hosted Neda Nabavi Tabatabai, one of the elite women of our country and a basic lawyer in a court of law, author of several books and articles in the field of law with 20 years of teaching experience at the university.
Tabatabai, referring to the two material and spiritual dimensions of human existence, or in other words, the scientific and higher dimension of human existence, said: Man is a complex being and the material dimension is the same as desires, instincts and airs. Breathing Is human and is in front of the higher, spiritual and divine dimension; If man’s attention and focus is only on the material dimension and his body, and common sense and nature rule over human existence, he will suffer from a disorder and identity crisis. The crisis of identity, which is in fact due to the conflict between reason and nature and the dimension of human existence, does not have a specific time period and can occur at any age. If a person is unaware of his existential value, his innate and inner talents, and is aware and focused on his body, then he tends to know. The most important reason is the requirements of youth, including the desire for diversity and the desire to be seen. It can be useful if the desires and requirements of youth are on the right track. For example, the desire to be seen in the field of education and science.
He pointed out: the way of attitude and vision of man causes his performance; If a person’s thoughts are correct, his actions and behavior will also be correct. Educational environments and the media play an important role in raising awareness, creating the right insight and attitude towards family life. We are on campus with single people and in the field of advocacy and court with married people روبه We are. the shape Giri Improper relationships between people start as a normal relationship. It continues like the exchange of pamphlets and… dimensions and reaches cyberspace and so on. Man must manage his relationships with others and have red lines for himself. Social interaction is necessary in any environment and is inevitable, it just has to be managed by the right people themselves. For example, they were a student girl who had befriended a boy at the university and had inappropriate photos. After a while, the boy threatened the girl that if If he does not respond to her requests, he will send her photos to his parents or publish them in cyberspace, and this was the reason why he was abused, but he went to the counseling center and raised the issue, and since according to the law Publishing personal photos in cyberspace is considered a crime. The university pursued and resolved the issue.
Tabatabai reminded: In many cases, boys enter into relationships with girls with the intention of spending time, friendship and having fun. The fact is that a girl befriends a boy with a thousand wishes, but a boy befriends a girl with a wish with a wish. This indicates that friendship between a girl and a boy does not necessarily lead to marriage. Therefore, relationships should be managed logically and rationally, especially girls who are more vulnerable. For example, they were the daughter of a woman who left her son after two years of friendship. This girl was very injured. He was suffering from depression and mental problems and was even on the verge of suicide. That is, even psychologically, girls are more harmed. Therefore, part of relationship management and control of emotions and feelings by girls should be done. For example, we had a case where a woman was married and had a child and was a student in one of the cities around Tehran. On the way back, one of his classmates leads him. little by little It was the case that they went out after class, the ski slope and the restaurant, or even in the summer when they did not have class, this relationship continued. This is while a normal relationship is formed from the beginning and due to non-observance of principles and boundaries, these relationships gradually expand and become problematic. The woman’s husband, who found out that he was divorcing her, thus puts the family center, which is the most basic institution of every family, in jeopardy.
In many cases, boys enter into relationships with girls for the purpose of spending time, friendship and fun. The fact is that a girl befriends a boy with a thousand wishes, but a boy befriends a girl with a wish with a wish. This indicates that friendship between a girl and a boy does not necessarily lead to marriage
In response to one of the program’s questions, Tabatabai clarified: What is the criterion of beauty? And how should the basis of beauty be defined? Isn’t it beautiful to maintain a woman’s human dignity by maintaining proper clothing and observing the moral rules, so that she wants to attract attention with her make-up and appearance? All ی Humans have a number of innate talents, but some may be unaware of their knowledge. So some people find the easiest way تبرّج And they turn to the beauty of appearance, they choose. It should be noted that Islamic rules are for the benefit of man. For example, in the home there are special rules for dressing a woman who has ornaments and makeup, but in society in another way, for example, clothes and clothing that is preferred at home are not suitable in society or for example with party shoes. You can’t go mountaineering. Every human being is free to decide for himself and to be free. In the Western lifestyle, freedom means following the desires and carnal instincts and that material dimension. For example, young people say that I want to eat this, I want to do that, and from the point of view of Islamic schools, freedom is a sacred concept and true freedom is the service of God. Now, those who do not worship God, or become slaves of God, or become slaves of Satan, who have sworn to deceive man, and the third case is that they become slaves of their own carnal airs. Not all human beings are innocent and everyone is exposed to harm and persecution, and if we want to reform ourselves and society, there must be both inner piety and self-control in individuals, and the environment of society must be reformed. If the heart wants to be pure, the behavior must also be right. We also see in the Qur’an that faith and righteous deeds go hand in hand. اند Therefore, it is not just that one should have a pure heart OK For example, a man cannot tell his wife that I only love you and then have sex with other women. This is not acceptable for a woman; Because a man’s speech and behavior are not the same in the field of clothing.
It should be mentioned that Cheragh TV program in the third season, airs on Sundays and Tuesdays at around 9 pm on Channel 5 of Sima, and discusses a challenge every week and holds a weekly poll. Follow @ cheragh_tv5 in cyberspace. To see this week’s programs, you can click on the following link:
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