How do a skill with family / children become generous?

Family group Creating a spirit of forgiveness in children is one of the educational policies of every family, because the spirit of generosity and self-sacrifice in the future and adulthood helps them a lot and is one of the moral priorities.

It is normal for younger children to be upset and angry when another child picks up their toy, device or food, and this is perfectly normal, but a child with a generous and educated spirit will be less angry and can use his / her equipment. To share with other kids.

Children need to be taught that generosity does not always mean giving money and has no financial dimension, but can be helping a patient, self-sacrifice or passing from one device or food to another, even a smile, intimacy and kindness. Can be considered generosity.

Parents from an early age should teach children the spirit of generosity, empathy and compassion to be institutionalized in the tablet of their existence.

** Islam advises generosity

Amir al-mu’minin Ali (AS) has said about forgiveness: “Three things are the door to goodness and benevolence: forgiveness, the beauty of speech, and perseverance in persecution.” (Nouri, 1365: v. 8: Chapter on the acceptance of disclosure of peace: 33: H 9672). The Prophet of Islam (PBUH) also says: “The generous and good-natured young man is more beloved to God Almighty than the stingy old man of the immoral devotee.” (Ibid: H8383)

Also, Imam Sadegh (AS) has said: “The best of you are your benefactors, and your worst are your miser.” (Mohammadi Rey Shahri, 1374: J 5: 2426: H 8354). We have many such verses and hadiths about forgiveness, forgiveness, kindness and self-sacrifice. In this report, we teach children how to teach forgiveness at different ages:

If you want to have a generous child, pick up a ruler and divide your child’s life into two parts:

Divide before age 6 and after age 6.

* Before the age of 6

Before the age of six, focus on respecting your child’s ownership, think, “It’s his own and he may not want to give it to anyone!”

So at this age you do not need to have a training for generosity, just let it enrich your sense of ownership.

* After 6 years old

If you reject it well before the age of six, then you will automatically have a generous child and do not doubt it.

But you can give education, encouragement and advice to your child about generosity after the age of six and taste generosity.

* The best role models are parents

Parents themselves are the first and best role model in teaching moral concepts to their children. If children see that you have a spirit of generosity and self-sacrifice, they will follow suit. Most children acquire this spirit from the age of three, and even comfort their parents when they are upset, at which time other children are easily educated.

So you can be a generous role model for your child, do what you say, and be honest, kind, committed, and generous in public so that children can learn that spirit too.

Teach children the benefits of generosity

Children need to know that not all people are perfect, but they can be kind, generous, and empathetic to a happier life. It is like telling your child that he will feel happy and good now by helping a fellow human being, so we can be happy too. Or the child should know what he gets by giving, both happiness and many times the return of the gift he has given to others will return to him.

If the parents themselves are hard on forgiving others, children will not easily learn to resent others. These children see the world as hurtful and unkind, unable to communicate well with others, their empathy weakened, and with a small mistake or problem, they think the world and relationships are over.

For these children, parents must teach that everyone is wrong, that they are wrong, and that they must be forgiven. The needy must be helped and the spirit of empathy and skill must be found.

* Exchange children’s feelings together

To teach a sense of generosity, you need to play with children who are a little older than you so that they can share what they have and respond to the needs of others, and because those children are older, they can feel safe and responsive. Raise children.

* Do not blame your child

It is common for parents to blame their children for not giving something to other children or adults, never do that, but talk to them and act as a guide and let them make mistakes. Because he is just learning. He is a child with a kind heart and you should not forget this and think that he is a strange and evil creature. It is better to correct his thoughts and reduce his mistakes over time by strengthening the spirit of generosity, but all this is possible by praising the child.

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