How does an “informed mother” talk to her child? / Keys to preventing humiliation and blame

Family group: In parenting, all parents have had times when they treated their children in a way that they later regretted, or years later realized that the way they were raised and talked to the child was wrong. More or less all parents have made these mistakes, but some have made mistakes with more awareness and some without awareness.

In this report, we try to teach you three strategies that can correct your relationship with your child and give quality to your relationship, so that from now on, whenever your child makes a mistake, try to establish a correct relationship with him.

Do not forget to let your child trust you so that in the future, if he or she has a problem or problem, he or she can easily share it with you. This report was written for parents to be aware of these issues.

** Correcting sentences that embarrass children

Imagine that your child has made a mistake and you are constantly embarrassing him in public or even at home. This is a wrong training method.

Instead of embarrassing him and telling him: I think with this handwriting you have, you should go back to kindergarten!

Communicate like this: When I was your age, I wanted to write faster, I remember I had to write so many words, I was disappointed, do you feel the same way?

I myself was writing a sentence at that time so that I could write faster, it helped me a lot. Do you want to try it?

** Correcting sentences that are considered superfluous

Some parents quickly beat their children because of mischief or any other mistake, for example, they say: You are a very bad child, I am ashamed that I have a son like you.

Instead of talking like this, it is better to say: I know you are a good and kind boy and you know that hitting your sister is wrong?

What made you think you did a good job? I understood. Maybe because you wanted to play with him and he did not accept! Look, my son, we can not force anyone to play with us, do you understand?

** Correcting behaviors that lead to fights

Sometimes parents get into fights due to a lot of stress, or children are stubborn and the fight gets right. In such cases, the wrong thing to say is to tell the child: “I’m tired of your behavior!

“I can’t always be busy solving your problems!”

It is better to speak clearly and tell your child: “Can you tell me exactly what happened? What upset you? “Do you think it would have been better if you had done something?”

Finally, know that you should always choose the right relationship instead of fighting and humiliating. Talk to your child about his feelings. Empathize with him, let him not think that he is the only one who has this problem.

Now that you have read this, think about when was the last time you chose the right relationship instead of fighting and humiliating? If you have just been lucky, but if you do not remember, it is better to reconsider the way you treat children and keep these items and keys in mind.

In the present age and the current coronary conditions, studying and educating parents is the best way to raise a healthy generation. Parents should learn the educational process before having children, because the family system is no longer the same as in the past, and everything has changed, so new life skills must be learned, and if so many parents in this field before having children. They were not aware, they can then raise their awareness through parenting workshops, family counseling and reading books.

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