How to solve a child’s anxiety – Mehr News Agency | Iran and world’s news
According to the Mehr reporter, with the reopening of schools and the children going to the classrooms, after a few years, we again saw an increase in the anxiety of children due to going to school. This anxiety was caused by a two-year break in children’s schooling; This year, more than in previous years, children and their families were affected.
In a previous report, we looked at how we can recognize the symptoms of children’s anxiety about returning to school; We identified and emphasized the manifestations of anxiety in children; Children with more empathetic families will be less anxious. Families where parents talk to their child easily and the child expresses his or her anxiety and worries much more easily than other peers.
In this report, we intend to address the issue that How should families react if they see signs of anxiety in their children?
Saeed Sadeghi, a university professor and child psychologist, told Mehr about the role of families in reducing and eliminating children’s anxiety: “If we want to talk about this, what strategies should families take?” Undoubtedly the first and most important thing that parents should do is Hear and see the child’s fears and anxieties and talk about them with their child.
Sadeghi added: “Imagine a child refuses to go to school or starts crying in the schoolyard; If the mother becomes nervous and aggressive, or blames her child, or even compares him or her to other children and peers; This not only does not improve the child’s anxiety but also exacerbates it; So In the first step, parents must listen well and empathize; When the parents have prepared the space or even talk to the child about their concerns the night before they go to school; The child will definitely have less anxiety.
This child psychologist states that sometimes it is necessary to ask the child to think of a way to relieve his anxiety; Said the child needs to solve the problem here; To think for himself how he can solve this fear and anxiety or reduce his anxiety.
Sadeghi points out that in many cases, the fears and anxieties that exist in the child are really eliminated with the first steps; Stated: Provided that the concern that the child has; The mother-father as two adults with the perspective of an adult and with empathy can put themselves in the place of the child how the child is experiencing that situation.
Talk to your child about his or her concerns
He said that timely actions can easily solve the child’s anxiety; He said: For example, a child is worried that it will be time to finish school; Does not serve; Or forget his mother and father to take him home from school; Or lest he go hungry at school; These are some of the things that cause anxiety and worry and it is very easy to prevent the child’s anxiety by talking about these events.
Sadeghi by stating that School tour It can help students get acquainted with the school environment of their place of study; He said: If the child is not very adapted to the school environment; For example, if the schoolyard is crowded or crowded and students are disturbed, a parent should hold their child’s hand during non-office hours and in classrooms. Show the classes to them. Interested in the school environment
This child psychologist stated that Ambiguity always produces anxiety, He said: If I tell you that you are going to a place where you do not know where it is, it will surely cause you anxiety; But if you have been there before; The situation will be much easier for you. So the second point is the child’s familiarity with the school environment.
The professor of Shahid Beheshti University added: The third solution is to facilitate the child’s relationship with teachers; There is no problem if a child with anxiety and stress has his or her parents spend time talking to the teacher or principal, the teaching team, or the school counselors, asking the teacher to communicate more or more supportively with their child. This helps a lot to get the child interested in the teacher, and the simple communication that the child establishes with the school teacher or the school principal or the school administrator gradually makes the child interested in the school environment.
Honest is the fourth way to reduce Cook anxiety The child’s relationship with peers He added that parents should try to facilitate their child’s communication with peers; Again, there is nothing wrong with having two or three children in the same class on weekends during off-school hours and taking the children to the park; It may seem simple, but it also creates an emotional bond between the children and creates the necessary support resources for the child and makes the child interested in going to school eagerly in the morning; Because he sees his friends there. In fact, this emotional connection eliminates much of the child’s anxiety and makes school attractive to the child.
The child psychologist added: “One of the other things that parents need to do, and we talk about it a lot in the research literature, is that Facilitate the process of transferring the child from home to school; That is, try to have a certain order when the child is about to be separated from them; Or the child has a special place at school; Or think of a particular behavior or a particular joke to say goodbye to; To send the child to school with the good mood and morals of the parents when the child is separated from his parents. This pleasant farewell really makes the child feel relaxed.
The child psychologist added: “It is very useful for parents to tell the child that they are waiting for him at the end of school hours to bring him home from school; Children are psychologically fully prepared to follow their parents’ example; Parents who take their child to school and escort their child to the school door; The child will feel calm while if the parents are careless about the child going to school; The child feels as if his mother and father are not paying any attention to him; The child feels rejected and this in itself can be a source of stress for the child.
The professor of Shahid Beheshti University pointed out: Parents may not be able to completely eliminate their young child’s anxiety by doing all the above measures. This indicates that the child is suffering Anxiety Disorders When we talk about disorder, it means that it is no longer a stable pattern of behavior; Behavioral and emotional disorders have a specific treatment process in which the child usually responds well to treatment by a specialist and helps to reduce their anxiety and adapt more easily to the environment.