Investigating the role of the media in strengthening the indicators of stable marriage in Kurdistan – Mehr news agency Iran and world’s news

Mehr News Agency – Provinces Group: In today’s world, the media has the role of intellectual leadership of societies, and large media institutions in the world are trying to instill the indicators of Western culture in the whole world with coherent and complex plans.

These multinational media have been influencing public opinion by benefiting from various media tools in the field of hardware and software and have been effective in many cases.

Currently, the Islamic society of Iran is also affected by these media attacks, and our enemies, with the aim of destroying the foundations of families and the foundations of values ​​and identity, are thinking of overcoming the thoughts of Iranians in the first step and then dominating our God-given resources in the next steps.

Increasing vigilance and insight of different strata of people in dealing with media conspiracies of enemies and strengthening media literacy in this field is an undeniable necessity.

The young generation of our society, especially the young people on the verge of marriage, is among the target society of media and cultural conspiracies of the enemies, and in this regard, with the efforts of the “Avati Xianeh Veh” youth non-governmental organization in Sanandaj city and with the presence of experts in the field of sociology, psychology and Media A round table was held at Mehr News Agency, which will be followed.

The role of the media is in persuading people to receive special counseling services

Omid Bahmani, a senior expert in sociology and one of the Kurdistan media activists, stated in this round table: People cannot always be in constant contact with counseling, so the media and especially radio and television, considering the high cost of counseling and not being covered by insurance, should do as much as they can. Raise awareness by using consultants.

He added: “The media shapes the ways of life, not only through conversations but also through films and series, necessary training can be transmitted.”

Bahmani pointed out: TV and other media can inform the audience about the dangers of single life and loneliness in the future, and this awareness can be in the form of a conversation with a specialist or movies and series.

This media activist said: I think the media has done little in this field, and the media, with the help of counselors, should inform families and young people about the right ways to get married, and they can also teach life skills.

Bahmani added: The media can also explain the importance of counseling, it can convince the audience that the cost of marriage and ceremony varies, if it is spent on counseling, it guarantees a lifetime.

He stated: The media should educate families to learn the correct way to use social networks and virtual space.

Bahmani added: There is another problem in our country, there is no such amount of foreign media in the language of one country anywhere in the world, and these media have been launched with the aim of influencing the Iranian society.

He pointed out that the influence of these media has doubled, so programs in the field of marriage, if they are produced and published, will reach the audience less and have an effect on them.

This media activist added: Other countries have more influence on the society in the absence of this foreign media attack.

Young people should learn about their role in society

Kajal Toloui, a senior expert in psychology, said in this round table: One of the reasons for the overcrowding of counseling centers in the discussion of family problems and divorce is the selection of people without using scientific methods in the matter of marriage. The scientific and specialized method of marriage includes at least ten pre-marriage counseling sessions, life skills training, personality tests, examination of personality type and psychological injuries. If the problems are solvable and the couple does not have very different personality types, the counselor helps the couple to obtain information in order to be more congruent in a conscious marriage and knowing with intelligence.

Toloui admitted: One can mention the cumbersome and problematic customs of rushing the ceremony, heavy dowries, additional dowry, emphasis on having a house and a car, renting a hall for the ceremony, etc., which are not within the means of all families.

What things can be replaced for a successful marriage?

He stated: In the present time, a boy who has an education, has served in the army and found a regular job is at least thirty years old. When this boy asks for marriage, he is faced with a request for a house and a car. For girls too, the age of marriage has risen sharply.

This social expert said: “Unfortunately, we see that young people who come for pre-marriage counseling do not match their mental age and calendar age, and they do not know the skills that an adult needs to manage a joint life.”

Toloui added: The best thing is to try to prepare these two people for a healthy marriage with scientific methods and counseling before marriage.

He pointed out that the main reason for the increase in the age of marriage is the economic problem, the stonewalling and high expectations of families, the diversity of young people, personality problems, and the availability of people.

Toloui clarified: Being an only child, along with improper family upbringing, is sometimes another reason for reluctance to marry or even marriages leading to failure. Excessive and out of bounds attention of parents to their only child makes narcissistic people. A person has always had all the attention of his parents, he has never had to understand and tolerate another person, he has not had the feeling of sharing and sharing situations throughout his childhood, adolescence and youth. He has always been the first. In modern times, when the position of people has changed and families have been patriarchal, parents have always given the right to their children. When they are subjected to psychological tests, we see that the factors of narcissism and obsession are common in these people.

He added: “Corona can also be considered as the reason for increasing these conditions.” In the conditions of Corona, personality disorders and mental illnesses of people increased and on the other hand, empathy decreased drastically.

This expert in the field of psychology admitted: research has shown that all people, both men and women, single and married, face a lot of mental and emotional crises upon entering middle age, which can make it more difficult for them to continue living. These mental crises are doubled by loneliness and bring with it the possibility of depression. The probability of this condition occurring in women is twice that of men.

Considering the diminution of the role of families, what is the solution to these problems?

He added: In order to facilitate the marriage of young people, governments should support young people in the form of low-interest loans with longer repayment. It is necessary for families to be less strict in the economic field and to introduce them to marriage consciously by guiding and directing young people to counseling centers. The media should be obliged to advertise and promote easy marriage, the media should provide and review correct and scientific training with the help of experts.

Toloui pointed out: We also need to ask ourselves this question: as much as the media has made a program against divorce and made divorce look very negative, have they also made a program on the positive and beautiful aspects of marriage?

Many social harms can be prevented by promoting media literacy

Khabat Saedi, an expert in the field of media and a teacher of media literacy in Kurdistan province, also stated in this round table: At this point in time, the lives of all people are intertwined with the media, and based on scientific findings, every day and night, on average, every Iranian person has more than 400 The media and advertising message is encountered without even realizing it.

He added: “Even now, the traces of the media can be seen in the occurrence of many social harms, although this does not mean that the media has a destructive role in the society, but the platform of the media is used to do illegal and harmful things, and people who are not media literate They are easily affected by these attacks.

This media researcher stated: Undoubtedly, in the field of youth marriage, the capacity of the media can be used in the best way, and this influential cultural and social platform can be used in education before, during and after marriage.

Saedi added: It is possible to prevent many social harms by promoting media literacy, and it is expected that the institutions in charge of cultural and social fields, in consultation with experts in the field of media and with coherent planning, will take advantage of this great capacity in order to build culture and advance social goals. .