According to Fars news agency’s health reporter, Seyedah Masoumeh Tabatabaei, a psychologist, said in the Salam Tehran program of the 5th TV channel: We consider anger to be a completely negative reaction; If psychology emphasizes that anger is a completely natural reaction. In this regard, we must know how to control it.
He added: In order to be able to control anger, it is necessary to consider it as a coordinate axis and see when it moves away from the zero point. What situations make us angry? All these positions have the same multi-stage structure.
Tabatabai stated: In the first stage of the path of becoming angry, we suffer. For example, we don’t get what we intended or we see a behavior from someone that we didn’t expect. In the second stage we reach failure due to suffering and in the third stage we get angry.
This psychologist added: After getting angry, there are two final stages in the coordinates of anger that lead to anger and finally violence. The most important issue in the discussion of anger control is to be able to manage it properly in order to prevent the occurrence of the next stage in each stage, preferably in the first three stages.
Tabatabaei stated: The most important solution in the issue of anger control is not to create a crisis in a crisis. For example, in a fight with our spouse and when we are angry, we interfere with other issues and make the fire of anger burn more. In order for this not to happen, it is better to leave that space.
He added: “Some people do not express their anger when faced with it.” Psychology states that people should express their anger in a managed way, not to swallow it; Because constant silence during anger causes problems such as depression and anxiety.
This psychologist said: In the discussion of anger control, the four 10 technique forces us to ask ourselves if we will have the same reaction in 10 minutes, 10 hours, 10 days, and 10 months from now. Many of our reactions in the face of various crises are momentary. That’s why we suggest to people that when they are angry, take a piece of paper and write on it whatever they want to say and if necessary, even scribble it.
He added: “When we are angry, we cannot think straight and clear.” We cannot solve the problem. Therefore, if we can manage our momentary excitement, later we will think correctly about the problem and find a solution for it.
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