Negative control of weaving with “internal dialogue” management skills
Family group: If you want to scatter friends and acquaintances around you in the blink of an eye, do not be bored with yourself, let alone others, it is enough for a while to focus on negative thoughts, that’s all. Almost one hundred percent of people who read these sentences react: What a useless suggestion! To them, these suggestions can only come from the heart of a malicious person. If you wait a little longer, the story will become clear. Many times we do the same unkindness about ourselves, we get overwhelmed with negative thoughts many times during the day and we relentlessly give it wings and feathers and say that this is not a matter of our own free will. We take the collar of the hardships of time, the evil of others and luck, and pull ourselves aside and say: If these are corrected, we will not be satisfied with our souls to think so much.
The reality is this; We are the owner and manager of our thoughts. By managing thinking, we can create better conditions for ourselves, even in the midst of all the problems and difficulties we have, but when we find ourselves under the influence and powerless, we send invitations for negative conditions, even when we have a relatively good and comfortable life. Talking about trying to acquire the skill of positive, constructive and effective “inner dialogue” and getting rid of negative inner dialogue is mental, but what should be done?
Negative thoughts = falling out of work and life
You have seen, there are times when something bad has happened in our life, when we are alone around or even in the middle of a lot of busy work, the engine of our mind is constantly turned on and the thought behind the thought, fantasy after fantasy … we start talking in Our minds with ourselves without moving our lips and mouth. We condemn this, we question it, we see someone as a traitor and Bahmani as a double woman, one of them did it deliberately to make us sad, and this one is not right at all, it is not! Sea sea we talk to ourselves; General negative words. When we come to ourselves, we have nothing left but a restless body and mind, a wounded and hopeless being, as if the persecution of the earth and time is tense and now it must reach a mountain of its accumulated responsibilities. This is the “negative inner dialogue.” The flow of negative thoughts into negative thoughts, no matter how much we continue to direct them, turns into negative beliefs. Negative belief also shapes our behavior. Gradually we come to ourselves and see those around us asking us: “So-and-so, do you have any news how bitter you are these days ?!” This word usually ends up being heavy for us and the beginning of arguing with people. Gradually, those around us are scattered around us, but why?
When the mirror of the mind becomes dangerous
Unhealthy and negative inner feelings such as anxiety, anger, depression, etc. are not in themselves so disturbing as the feeling we have. To understand this, it is better to use an example. Suppose there is a scene in the house or office that we enjoy, but a person who does not feel good installs a sign in that area, or in other words, blinds our view. We get angry when we see it, we even think it is intentional. The next negative thoughts come to our minds to deal with retaliation or tension. If we do a little research into our inner negative thoughts and conversations, we will not hate and be angry with the person or the painting itself. It strengthens us. So a string of negative thoughts has bothered us, which we have given wings, not the event itself. This is the simplest definition of negative thoughts. Knowing more than anything else the negative “image”, “drawing” and “visualization” of that story has made our minds and thoughts bitter at times. Having this ruler and discernment helps us to realistically accept that it is we who are hurting ourselves, not that person or subject, because we have not been able to manage our thoughts properly, when our minds are engrossed in negative inner conversations. There have been many unpleasant events in our lives that we have been able to have positive perceptions of with a positive outlook and positive inner thoughts. In other words, let’s see the famous phrase “goodness lies in every evil” and cross that difficult neck of a successful life. Here we have managed a certain bitter event because before that we were able to manage and positive our thoughts. Remember, you can’t live a positive life with a negative mind.
Lust in Antarctica!
Most likely, we have heard about the law of attraction, about which many books and articles have been published over the years and have their own fans. A law that says think positive and strong to achieve anything you want. This law, of course, does not apply always and everywhere, and in some cases it is perceived as a bit surreal; Bodyless and underemployed people who just want to get somewhere by thinking, not work and effort! Or people who do not understand the facts and circumstances of their lives and set unrealistic goals for themselves, and if they have not provided the necessary infrastructure to achieve it, or it is not possible to do so on the basis of doing so. Critics of this idea say: someone is sitting in the pole and wants dates. The sum of opposites and the impossible. However, the application of this relative law is not only for good events. As realistic human beings use this law and focus, they define their goal and strive to achieve it. Negative people gradually overcome negative inner dialogue and turn it into beliefs, behaviors. They express themselves negatively. They scatter others around them. These people with negative weaving and suspicion, jealousy, anger, negative perception of any story, even the most positive stories! They draw a circle around themselves and inadvertently give negative and disturbing warnings to others. No one wants to have dinner with someone who is skeptical. Talking to someone who thinks we are constantly lying to them does not feel good at all. Anyone who thinks that in any transaction his invitation is to cooperate and partner to provoke him, and instead of concluding a defensible and strong legal contract that blocks the way for others to profit, constantly accuses him of this and that, he is not a good financial partner. Someone wants to share with him. This person’s relationship with others is getting tighter every day and as the situation gets worse, the person becomes isolated, aggressive, and so on. The treatment of this negative event is very simple; Getting the brakes on negative thoughts.
Fortunately, God is always …
Negative people and those who constantly have negative mental dialogue within themselves are unfortunately among the most failed people in the world. They usually retaliate before committing a crime. That is, they challenge their psyche before it may happen in the future, for example, a person who is stressed out of his job due to the volume of tasks assigned and failure to do it or other issues such as adding a new workforce or .. Imagine for a second you were transposed into the karmic driven world of Earl. If perhaps in reality, the story would turn out differently. Things go better. The labor law should be changed a little so that employees are not helpless to perform their duties. Perhaps the new workforce will become his best and most effective friend. A simple, clear and honest conversation with the director of the relevant department to provide the situation for him and …
Unfortunately, negative people do not grow well in the field of inner spirituality and self-improvement. The predominant negative conversation in their minds diminishes their peace of mind, spirituality, respect for human rights, and a little trust. It is true that the efforts and perseverance of individuals are very important and decisive, but ultimately the provision of the world of God. The ruler of the universe is aware of all aspects of his life and relying on him is a source of peace. The fruit of peace is nothing but the desire to work again, more activity and stronger motivation. The negative person but unfortunately loses his natural sleep. He does not enjoy life. He can not focus on topics, and unfortunately the first remnants of his inner tensions and negative conversations sit on his loved ones and family; They are the first to be aggressive.
Stop negative thoughts …
What should be done now? Mind training. Positive dialogue should replace negative internal dialogue. One thing is very important here, positive thinking is very different from optimism or extreme positive thinking. Optimism does not become bread and water, and too much optimism is even harmful. Simple things can be done to manage internal dialogue and reinforce positive thinking. Have a little fun hobby like painting a painting, drinking your favorite tea, walking the path you like, taking care of plants or talking to someone who makes you feel good.
As soon as negative thoughts come to you, do one of these things instead of starting a negative inner conversation. Keep yourself busy so that your mind and body are away from that thought. You can even use the write and delete technique. Write down the thoughts that come to mind and get the mind used to positive thinking by writing inverted sentences below it.
Be a good listener!
If negative internal dialogue continues and doing these things is useless or ineffective, there are other ways; Manage internal dialogue and practice fair perception of situations. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes and try to reinforce a positive outlook. Talk to Yourself When the house is secluded, you can even turn this mental conversation into an external conversation with yourself. Ask yourself why you are afraid, hateful or suspicious and resentful? Tell yourself what if I make a mistake or make a wrong judgment? What if your assumption is based on strong evidence? This is a sensitive stage. Set yourself a hard and difficult situation: I have no right to give a bad answer with a bad one because I hurt myself the most or: There must be a positive and constructive way. If these ways have not worked before, it is time to minimize our focus and interaction with that person in the most positive way possible. This way of self-talk may be difficult in the beginning, but if it continues, it will soon lead us to thought management, ideal positive thinking, and constructive social interaction. This is turning the threat of negative thoughts into an opportunity to live positively.
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