“Single child” is one of the most difficult educational models

Family group Hojjatoleslam Mohsen Abbasi Valadi, a teacher and researcher in the field of family, said in the “Non-Stop” program broadcast on the Se Sima network, emphasizing that both Western psychology and religious education emphasize that raising an only child is one of the most difficult educations. Because you have to spend several times as much time as parents who have several children in order to fill the void left by that sibling, and it is usually gadgets and subsidized games that play the role of siblings for him.

He pointed out that today in the international community and in our own society, women’s employment is one of the factors that reduce the motivation to have children, he said: It is not that she is a woman, but of course, good preparations have been made in this regard in the youth plan of the population, and we hope that it will be realized.

Hojjatoleslam Abbasi Valadi stated: The second reason is that some working women are not interested in having children under the pretext of having childbearing problems, and even if special arrangements and privileges are considered for them, they will still not want to have children, because they will definitely have children. Employment has more difficulties.

He continued: “The fact is that working women should determine their duty by raising their children. If they give priority to the child, we must accept this rule. If employment hurts and the mother works for a better life, she must manage her life.” Move to a place where the priority of raising a child is at the top and employment is next. It is true that some may be able to do motherhood, marriage, and employment at the same time, but these are not all, and it is difficult and requires a lot of energy.

The university professor also emphasized: “The rule is that if you understand the meaning of good education and employment hurts education and that employment was better for life, do not forget the priority of raising children, as some accepted the contentment in their current life.” I do not say that women should give up all their jobs, because by the way, a number of jobs are women, and these women are kind and promise that they are the teacher and the doctor of our children and wives, but not all jobs are like that, that is, all jobs. It is not feminine, and not all of these feminine jobs are for the minimum.

Abbasi Valadi also said about the issue of having one child: I do not believe in anything as having one child, because when you are an only child, peripherals such as TV, computer games and virtual networks as a member of the family have no place for siblings for your child. Fills Now you can choose the same equipment or replace them with siblings who are your child’s companion, playmate and comforter.

Asked if our child needs a companion and playmate at a reasonable age, he said: “Western psychology and religious education both emphasize that one-child education is one of the most difficult educations and that you can empty that sister.” And fill the brother Many times as many parents as have children, you have to spend time with people who believe that the quality of life with an only child is better. And play brother for your child and how long can you continue to do so.

This expert and researcher in the field of family, pointing out why in the compulsion to have only one child, we consider only the category of economy, answered: why in the category of economics, we assume that parents should be responsible for their child’s economic issues after marriage. Why don’t we think of educating the child in the right way, in a way that is productive and achieves economic empowerment? Is this kind of education that leads to better economic quality really in the best interest of the child?

Abbasi Valadi also emphasized: “It is interesting that many parents of single children say that we refused to have more children for a better quality of life and more care for our children, and now our only child complains to us why he blessed me.” You deprived your brother and sister.

In the end, he addressed the people who were satisfied with having one child under the pretext that they were not bored. About five to six years after the first child, the time to raise and spend time with the children is reduced at once because the older children themselves are a supportive arm at home that can take on many responsibilities in the family and This reduces the educational and workload of the parents.

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