The family’s belief that all families are confidential is harmful – Mehr News Agency | Iran and world’s news
According to the Mehr correspondent, this week’s Cheragh program hosted “Seyedeh Masoumeh Tabatabai”, a university professor, writer, consultant and memorizer of the entire Holy Quran.
Referring to the principle of beauty of friendship and desire for beauty in human beings, Tabatabai said: The desire for beauty of friendship, like other innate needs of human beings, such as the need to eat and drink, exists in all human beings, especially women; That is, women naturally want to be beautiful and popular. That’s right Not that Let’s say There is no such need among the educated and educated class. Therefore, in accordance with the scientific environment and the elite atmosphere, universities have rules and regulations in the field of coverage, as it is common all over the world that there are rules and policies on coverage in educational environments to achieve the main goal and motivation of education and every factor. Which removes these environments from that main purpose.
Therefore, in educational and university environments, the more peace and mental security is provided, the more concentration and success will be provided. For example, an elite student Oh you I had a very successful marriage with another student, but they were in trouble because of an out-of-bounds relationship before their marriage; As they themselves quoted, their idea was that in any case, in the university environment and the elite atmosphere, there is no need for any considerations and it may be meaningless, in other words, this lady did not believe in observing hijab or privacy in a relationship, because this was their idea. Which have no meaning or place in the atmosphere of teacher and student. On the other hand, their girlish mischief had caused them to have a more intimate relationship with the master. But after the marriage, which their spouse found out, their lives were in great crisis.
He pointed out: The importance and necessity of educating people for chaste living is not hidden from anyone and is undeniable, and all human beings have realized the importance of the educational process. اندBut the point is that in addition to proper and genuine education, there must be deterrence and respect for privacy in the first place in the person himself. Sometimes it is seen that people are from a noble family, but nevertheless, the person himself does not believe in privacy and does not have the necessary deterrent in relationships. Therefore, education has an external effect when the individual uses his inner will and the tools he has learned in different environments, including family or educational environment. Then, in addition to the discussion of training and internal self-control, a healthy environment must be provided. For example, they referred to a student who was also in an out-of-context relationship and was in contact with one of his or her fellow academics about being a classmate and not needing or making sense of a set of frameworks. Unfortunately, their work had reached a point where, in addition to psychological damage, they had also suffered physical damage. The man had also threatened to disgrace her if she did not listen to him, and the girl’s daughter complied with his demands and was present with him in polluted and wrong spaces. می Has been.
Breaking the boundaries leaves irreparable effects
Tabatabai stated: Many women who enter into a relationship and are harmed from the beginning with the aim of marriage and a deep emotional relationship, but with the continuation of this relationship, dependence and attachment is created and the ground for abuse and benefit بری The other side is provided. In other words, at first, men start with the promise of marriage, but then, after a while, they realize and admit that they do not benefit each other. In the meantime, women suffer the most from the damage caused by the breach of privacy, and many of them are irreparable. For example, I had a student from the above family Extraordinary They were noble and dignified, and the parents were well-known in their hometown and from traditional families, but the daughter of this family entered into an out-of-bounds relationship with the promise of marriage and due to attachment. Oh you Which was created and under the pretext of gaining more knowledge and trust in each other, unfortunately, they had entered into relationships that had suffered serious damage and the reputation of the family. اش It was damaged and endangered.
The university professor pointed out in part: Certainly, the environment in which a person works and has a social emergence is important and effective, but it can not be said that the main effect is with this issue; Many people were present in very open environments but respected the privacy. In our country, thanks to the Islamic Revolution, a healthy environment is provided. Many non-Iranians who are students in our country, especially in international universities International, When you listen to them, despite the deterrents Oh you However, due to their experiences of observing chastity, the identity that has been created for them and the peace and pleasures that it has brought to them, they have taken this path and even followed it. The problem is gone اند. Many of them suffer from traveling and being away from their families in order to learn religious teachings and be able to have a social presence in a safer environment.
He continued: “It is interesting to note that many of these students who are studying medicine are also interested in learning religious sciences.” When you listen to their conversations, they express the sweet and enjoyable experiences of observing privacy and hijab in a way that may not be so tangible for us Iranians, who lived in a healthy environment from the beginning. Their own expression of a sense of calm, security, comfort in the community, free from the concerns of particular views and demands, brought the observance of modesty and chastity, the pleasure of their peace was valuable to them.
Children must be brought up in the community from the beginning
Tabatabai stated: Therefore, if people are present in the community in a healthy and correct manner, regardless of the margins, and in the family, if the children are raised from the beginning based on observance of privacy, they will have no problem entering the community because they have a deterrent experience. By ی It has a basic family upbringing. Therefore, education is very important, provided that it has an external appearance. For example, I had clients who believed that their teenage daughter did not need to have a headscarf or more clothes in family gatherings, but unfortunately their daughter was at a party. ها He was attacked by a relative, and later, when it came time for their marriage, he became afraid of men and had a mental crisis because of his bitter experience.
“So the family believes that all relatives,” the lamp program expert concluded Confidential And there is no need to observe the limits and privacy. He had caused serious harm to their child. In society, too, the quality and form of our presence causes others to treat us and judge us accordingly. Thus, people’s cover stems from their inner beliefs; Therefore, when a woman appears in society with a certain head, posture, dress and make-up, she somehow allows other people to judge and treat her based on her appearance. I had a case in which a woman said that we are comfortable in family gatherings and that wearing a headscarf does not mean anything to us at all, but it is also considered an insult, and if used in the presence of a sister or cousin, it means that you are a stranger. Oh you, This belief was formed in them from childhood and despite the fact that the person is educated Oh you His relationship with one of his relatives had become intimate and had seriously damaged family relations. Some families do not believe that non-compliance is a matter of attachment Hi را Created Brings and consequently damages and compensation crises ناپدیر For the individual and those around them Created brings.
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