What do “dads” think? / What goes on in the minds of fathers?

Family group; Atieh Hemmati: Some people believe that a person can empty himself by talking or lighten up as soon as a phone is found to talk to him about his words and worries. But dads don’t usually talk about what’s on their minds. With family members who do not say anything so as not to worry. They can be ashamed to talk to friends and acquaintances. That’s why dads are the least talked about family member. Dads hate heartache. They are even embarrassed that someone understands their problems. They like to have that perfect picture of the family hero on their face. A hero who never fails. Have you ever wondered what goes on in Dad’s mind? On the occasion of Father’s Day, we asked many fathers what they are thinking these days and what is going on in their heads? Then we categorized their words to find out what is going on in the heads of the fathers?

What should I do with the cost of living?

Dads have a very good account of their books. They may be able to calculate three-digit additions and subtractions immediately. Their minds have a powerful calculator that quickly sums up and subtracts the rest of the account from past and future expenses to see how it can last until the end of the month. How to increase income even slightly. How to reduce costs. When they can not, the first thought that comes to their mind is to eliminate a significant expense of themselves. You usually do not see Daddy go shopping for himself or even go to the doctor! Dads usually buy for others at their own insistence while shopping and if extra money is added for themselves. When they buy, they feel ashamed and think they have done something wrong. It is said that the expenses they made for themselves could not be spent on a place in life where the family needed it most. Shouldn’t their pockets be reduced by the end of the month? It is said that the cost of living breaks one’s back. Maybe that’s why most dads have back pain!

What time is it today?

For dads, the date of the day and week is important. You can always ask them how many months it is today and get the right answer. Because fathers have a good day and date account. Because they know that they have to pay the installment of such and such a loan for several months. When is the rental period? How much is left of their rented house until the end of the year? How many months is their loan supposed to be ready? When do they pay their salaries? When should they pay the building charge? How many Saturdays should they go to the bank? How long is it until Nowruz? When is the children’s school tuition check period?

What are my family deficits?

Fathers think a lot about what the family does not have. They are worried about the family’s winter clothes when winter comes. Summer that worries about summer needs. They may even think of family needs that family members themselves do not. For example, Babaei used to say to himself, “I’m constantly telling myself not to miss anything that will have a direct negative effect on my child’s future.” He wanted something in his heart and said it, but I was not careful. Or how do my kid’s friends live? Doesn’t his friends have something that I can’t prepare and he has a hard time?

My head hurts from work pressures!

Many dads often have headaches. Because they endure a lot of work pressures. They wake up early in the morning. They stay in a lot of traffic. There are workplace conflicts and many hours are spent in the evening traffic or in the crowded subways and buses. Sometimes they may be discussed at work. Sometimes things may not go well. If they are businesses, their income may be empty or their customers may be reduced. Dads are tired of all this conflict.

I wish I could be more with my family

Fathers think a lot about their children. They try to provide children with everything they did not have. They want to be a safe place and support for their children. They often grieve that they can not spend much time with their children. Take them on a journey. Take the amusement park. Sometimes they do not have the financial means to travel. Sometimes it also takes time off. For this reason, their quarrels are postponed to nights. That’s why one of the fathers’ usual words is, “Let’s go on a trip.”

What should I do for the future?

Dads have nothing to do with the past. That is why they may not remember many things from the past. They live in the present and the future. They are currently paying installments for the future. They live for the future. In their accounts and books, they have been thinking about school and university tuition, dowry, and the wedding of their daughter and son for several years. They try to get their children to start living higher than themselves and to provide financial support for their future.

If i am die…

Dads think a lot about the future. Even if they do not express their thoughts and fantasies. In the two years that Corona ruined everything and mourned many families. Many fathers went to the mercy of God for a few days, so that this preoccupation would be more vivid in the minds of many fathers the day after them. What harm will their families and children suffer if they are not alive one day, God forbid. Based on this thought, they decide to do some things. Fathers are already worried about their children, even for the days after their deaths.

Lest they understand that this has happened …

Dads do not like to bring home their personal and work problems. That is why he does not like to be informed about the mental and internal problems of family members, especially children. For example, fathers do not like anyone to understand their lack of money or to be informed if something bitter happens to them. They themselves sit like a barrier in front of a bad event so that its effects do not affect the rest of the house. This is why they do not like to be asked about their problems and may be upset and even angry about such questions. Dad’s mind is really like a box of secrets.

Lest I be the hero of my child!

Fathers are the first heroes of their children’s lives. In some ways, they are the “most” children of their childhood. Like the strongest! One who can open the tightest of drinks and glasses. Someone who hugs us comfortably and lifts us up, and someone who is not afraid of anything! Dads are afraid from now on that they will no longer be their children’s heroes. Especially when their children were teenagers. Children are afraid that they will be embarrassed about their appearance and appearance, job or financial and educational status of their friends, or that they will turn from hero to anti-hero. Fathers love to be heroes for their children.

Happy Dads Day