What do these red bears do in our lives? / All year is love day!

Family group: These days, from different alleys and streets of the city, especially from the city center, walk up and down, you will see shops and stores selling chocolates, florists, dolls and toys, and various cafes that are full of flowers. Red roses, red teddy bears, balloon hearts and more are better known for celebrating Western Valentine’s Day and have nothing to do with traditional Oriental culture.

Even if you listen to young people talk, you will see them preparing for giving and receiving gifts for Valentine’s Day. Of course, this tradition has been extended to middle-aged people as well. But what is the story?

* A day for free and secret friendships

February 14th (February 16th) in the West has been named Valentine’s Day or Valentine’s Day and is a day that opens more and more space in the hearts of our youth and even Iranian families year by year. In fact, this day is known as free friendships outside the framework of family and hidden and unknown relationships, not relationships that are in the form of family ties and marriage.

Iranians are less aware of the philosophy of this day and know it only by a name and a few pens of chocolate and a heart and a Polish bear, while Valentine has a special philosophy for himself. But what is his philosophy? In the 18th century, a king named Claudius ruled in Rome, believing that married soldiers were not good warriors, and therefore forbade marriage among his soldiers.

The king’s action led Valentinus, a priest, to secretly marry the soldiers to the girls he loved, and his arrest led to his arrest and execution by order of the king. They give gifts. Of course, it has been suggested that Valentine himself had an affair with the jailer’s daughter and wrote letters in the form of “Your Valentine” before his execution.

In recent years, many sociologists and the media have tried to explain the philosophy of the day to young people, saying that Valentine’s Day is an imported and nascent non-Iranian tradition, and that we ourselves are based on the religious culture and values ​​of our society. We can have days to love and be loved, such as the wedding anniversary of the Lady of Two Worlds, Fatemeh Zahra (PBUH) and Imam Ali (AS), and celebrate it in the form and framework of a family.

* The family structure that is threatened

“Mansour Bayrami” Faculty member of the Faculty of Educational Sciences and Psychology, University of Tabriz In the pathology of Rose Valentine, she says: “The very question of how this foreign occasion, formed with a bear and a heart based on the interest of a Christian priest to his jailer’s daughter in the West, is also welcomed by our youth, requires pathology. The negative effects of this so-called celebration on our youth are quite obvious because it encourages them to have relationships outside the family and secret friendships and love affairs, and threatens the structure of the family.

He adds: “Our people are prone to role models, although we have beautiful and lovable role models such as Fatemeh Zahra (PBUH) and Imam Ali (AS) in their love and affection to become a method of love, but we welcome a Western imported culture is more than such occasions. Imported cultures such as Valentine with the aim of promoting infidelity of couples and leading females to males and vice versa, contrary to biology and the law of nature which targets marriage and family, to other societies such as Iran, Turkey, Pakistan, Afghanistan And .. are.

Bayrami believes that a healthy society needs a healthy family. “In a country like Japan and Korea, some people still do not use spoons and forks and eat with wood, which is their cultural occasion, and in fact their identity and They keep their culture, but our young people are now looking for Valentine’s Day gifts on their mobile phones until midnight, which means the planned family decline. A culture that has nothing to export is de-identified and receives another identity.

Emphasizing that he is not against cultural exchanges, he added: “Exchange has a rule, cultural independence is also important, we need our Iranian and Islamic culture and identity.” Our cultural brakes are on preserving the Iranian-Islamic identity, but counter-cultures like Valentine’s are passing them by. We have to teach young people the skills not to accept imported cultures, otherwise they will receive any counter-culture because of their wandering anonymity.

Every year, we see that in our own country, apart from Valentine’s Day, other occasions such as New Year and Christmas are celebrated by launching a Christmas tree and Santa Claus, and launching photo learning and photography themes. That’s why Valentine’s Day was celebrated in many kindergartens before Corona, and children were involved in this Western culture.

So the problem is not Valentine’s Day or Christmas, the problem is that we enter many of these cultures without going into depth and knowing the philosophy. Our young people need happy carnivals to be happy.

The acceptance of these imported cultures shows our weakness in the cultural basket. A recent study of Valentine’s philosophy in several parts of Tehran showed that people became interested in it without knowing it. Another issue is that families themselves, with the cold relationships they have with their children, pave the way for relationships outside their family with strangers.

When in a family there is as much need and a lot of love between father and us and children, children do not move out of the house for more intimacy and relationships without marriage.

* The damage that Valentine does to our culture

محمدمهدی ابهریThe social pathologist of behavioral sciences also says in this regard: Holding celebrations such as Valentine’s Day is a means to destroy people’s religious beliefs. Valentine and Esfandgan should be named Love Week.

Many of the items sold for Valentine’s Day in malls and stores are made in the capitalist and Zionist countries, from chocolates to dolls, all of which are harmful. So Valentine can not be a day of love, because Salmerg is a lustful priest promoted by the capitalist and Christian media.

The social pathologist points out the harms of celebrating Valentine’s Day: the spread of Western concepts and the empty and empty culture of the West among young people through yellow publications, blogs and virtual sites, to factors such as reduced youth desire for marriage and rational relationships, and Their tendency to illegitimate and irrational relationships, creating cultural damage to the country’s adolescents and conceptualizing a rootless theory in their minds, luxury and employment of various groups, even adults to useless and fruitless topics, reducing true love and creating a tendency to unhealthy relationships with Westernist interpretations, the misuse of corrupt political currents such as illegitimate feminist groups to this day, the spread of misinterpretations of women as a tool of lust, the degradation of the human and divine dignity of Muslim women and the creation of reproductive malformations, viruses and cultural harms in various ways. Produces destructive factors.

He says about the appropriate alternatives to this counter-culture: promoting the characteristics of Muslim women, promoting and explaining the real situation of women in ancient Iran and their values, the prevalence of marriage culture that prevents many cultural problems and most importantly the propaganda around the blessed day And the auspicious marriage of Hazrat Ali (AS) and Hazrat Fatemeh Zahra (AS) as a day of marriage and family love and affection that can be a much more valuable alternative to the superstitious days of imported culture.

The Supreme Leader always instructs the people of the society towards an indigenous lifestyle. In our Islamic and Shiite culture, every day of the year is commanded for love and affection for each other, but this should happen within the family, not in the form of Christian sub-traditions.

From the Islamic point of view, for a couple, every day is a day of love, just as the word love is used in many verses of the Qur’an and many hadiths have been received in the field of love, such as: “Those who believe and do righteous deeds, God, the Merciful, the Compassionate, will place their love and affection in the hearts of the people.” (Maryam / 96)

Also, Allah Almighty says in verse 21 Surah Roman: “Weman. “And it is a sign of His power that He has created for you wives of your own kind, that you may find comfort in them, and He has placed between you love and kindness, and in that are signs for a people who reflect.” (Romans 21)

In a narration, the Holy Prophet (PBUH) says: Give gifts to each other, the thread of your love will be stronger, because the gift removes hatred.

Imam Baqir (AS) also says: With gentleness and friendship, hearts become kind to you.

Imam Sadegh (AS) says in another beautiful narration: You see the believers in goodness and kindness to each other and friendship and kindness to each other, like a body that when a member is in pain and complains, other members agree with him with insomnia and fever. And call each other.

Finally, Iranian Islamic culture has many capacities that need to be studied and studied more in order to observe celebrations and holidays based on our own culture and traditions and not to destroy our national identity and assets.

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