What not to say to the anxious? / Avoiding self-medication in relation to the anxious person

Family group: Many people have a lot of anxiety due to certain living conditions, stress or even genetic reasons, these generally have many characteristics and one of their characteristics is that they are constantly seeking approval from others. It’s like they have bad weather anxiety and are constantly checking the news to see what the weather is like on the weekends, or they get caught in bad weather on weekdays when they go to work and can’t get to class or work on time.

Dealing with an anxious person also has its own conditions, it is true that people with anxiety disorders must undergo psychological treatment to be able to treat themselves, but those around the anxious person must also have some things in behavior and talking to him. Pay attention.

But at the same time, many people, such as spouses, friends, family, etc., talk to us about their anxieties. Especially in this two-year period in Corona, where the anxiety rate among the people has also increased, it is very important to know what to say and what not to say in order to help calm the anxious person and play an effective role ourselves. Have done. In this report, we teach some important points in this regard:

** Minimize the suffering of the other party

One of the misconceptions about an anxious person is that you underestimate their problem. It’s like telling him in the face of his particular anxiety: that he has no worries!

Talking to him like this will cause him to distance himself from you and make you feel that you do not understand him. It is best to tell him: I understand how much you are worried.

In this case, you will be next to the anxious person and even if you do not offer a solution, you will calm his mind.

** Minimize the suffering of the other party

Most of us have a laid back attitude when it comes to painting a picture about ourselves. “I once came to this point ten times myself” means that I have experienced worse situations than you. Why do you insist that you are more miserable than him?

Instead of chewing together, it is better to say to the anxious person, “I can imagine how much you are worried, but if you want help, I will be there, or if I can do something, tell me, or I will do anything to make you feel better.” ».

** Invalid the other party’s feelings

When someone talks to you about a problem or a bad mood, there is definitely no need for you to tell them not to think about it, they must have done it and not concluded that they are talking to you. So this dialogue is wrong to tell him: “Let Dad relax” or “Let go”

It is better to understand him and put yourself in his shoes and say, “You have a right to worry, how can I help you?” In this case, you have considered his feelings and he inadvertently feels better.

** Transmitting feelings of guilt and remorse

There are some people who do not have the patience to share anything at all. When someone talks to them, they say bluntly, “Did you start over again?” These are other people who should be escaped!

Instead of answering the other person, it is better to convey your feelings to him correctly and say: “How much you have been bothered about stress lately, the situation must have been very difficult for you”.

**self curing

There are some who love self-medication or, in other words, self-medication, that is, you talk to them quickly about a problem or anxiety, they say to you: “Come on, I have a great solution to the problem, it will be solved quickly.” Medicine and treatment, from pills and herbal medicine to rest and masks and decoctions and other things.

If you do not know something, it is better to be content with the same empathy, but if you have also received serious and scientific treatment in this field, say: In this case, you did not offer a solution, but referred him to a psychologist and counselor.

* What should we do if the subject of the person’s concern was too far from reality?

For example, if your friend anxiously tells you, “I’m very worried that something bad happened today, I feel like someone is going to die today.” This is another type of pathogenic anxiety that one must see a psychologist.

Again, it is better not to make fun of him in this situation and at least do not take him as if to say: “Are you drunk again?” That is, do not humiliate him.

It’s best to tell a friend or family member that “thinking about this is very anxious. I understand that you must be very scared when you have this feeling. “Let’s see together. What is the reason that something bad happened today?”

In any case, the anxious person needs emotional support, support, empathy and encouragement for treatment. It is better for you, as someone who is anxious with the person with any title, not to analyze the story for him, do not give him a solution, do not underestimate his worries, see his feelings and listen to his words.

So sometimes just “be” and that is enough for him, but in ways that he is ready to accept, lead him to serious treatment and, if necessary, with the help of his family.

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