Avoiding intellectual neglect is the guardian of mental health – Mehr News Agency | Iran and world’s news
According to the Mehr correspondent, this week’s “Cheragh” program on Channel 5 was hosted by Ms. Amiri, a respected university professor, counselor, psychologist, with more than ten years of experience in counseling in the field of family and women, as well as a master of personality psychology.
Referring to the subject of human physiology and two types of immediate and permanent pleasure in the body, Amiri believed that the consequences of using body and stimulant coatings are harmful and vulnerability is included in the discussion of immediate pleasure; That is, when a woman is present in society with a special cover, she pays attention to her immediate pleasure and desire. Now this instant pleasure causes permanent satisfaction and satisfaction not to happen. In other words, if we want to study from the point of view of physiology, we can say that the instantaneous pleasure circuit in the human body is such that when a person enters the instantaneous pleasure circuit, dopamine is released in cells and then this chemical stimulates nerve cells or neurons. Dopamine and this stimulation go so far that a person feels that the nerve cells in his body provide a protection for themselves, reducing the number of nerve receptors that are no longer stimulated. As a result, the person must either experience greater pleasure or change the type of pleasure. Therefore, this requires that the person not only step beyond his previous privacy, but also other behaviors may occur to repeat that stimulation and pleasure. So this pleasure is not something that one can suppress or cover up. This indicates harm to the individual, including diversity, because he has gone beyond moderation. For example, as experts sometimes say in the discussion of addiction, when a person becomes addicted, he does not feel good and satisfied from the same previous dose and the initial amount. Rather, it must increase the amount of that substance or change the type of substance. Well, this is an instant gratification system in the human body.
He added: “Another type of pleasure is permanent pleasure. The system of feeling satisfaction and satisfaction in permanent pleasure is different, and that is the secretion of serotonin, which, when secreted in the body, does not stimulate nerve cells like dopamine.” Incidentally, it prevents them and restrains them, and by creating that restraint, it gives man a pleasure. This is the state of meditation and self-control that gives the person a longer feeling of pleasure and satisfaction. But what makes a person not enjoy the constant secretion of serotonin is the secretion of dopamine, which does not allow it. Instant pleasure, that is, short and intermittent pleasure, man is sometimes hasty, he wants to have that pleasure soon. This is why it leads the system to boost dopamine.
The psychologist noted: In the discussion of pleasures, women pay more attention to the feeling of permanent pleasure and satisfaction in terms of attention, and men instant pleasure. On the other hand, it is easier for women to control their sexual instincts than men. So as women seek satisfaction and a state of constant commitment and pleasure, they have more control over the discussion of sexual instincts, then when they enter the orbit of instant gratification, their vulnerabilities increase. This view of women becomes more important when women are expected to We have some to take on this argument. Of course, this issue is not entirely the responsibility of women, and men must do their part. If women indulge in instant gratification, it does not lead to a feeling of constant satisfaction and satisfaction for them. And think of a lasting pleasure.
Amiri, who has more than 10 years of experience in counseling, continued: “I had a referral. In previous years, there was a man and a woman who referred to the counseling center. They were married, it had faded a lot, and the day they came to me with the same kind of cover that the lady wore, and when we talked about it, she did not pay attention to her husband’s protest and upset. In the meetings that took place and in the meetings that we talked to in private, she said that I am aware that my dress has faded and I know that this has happened since the beginning of the marriage, but I have a decision, I have an idea, that I want to Lightening my dress, lightening and normalizing my husband’s sensitivity. I told them about the normalization of this example; Suppose I ate a very large and heavy meal today, can you tell me that Ms. Amiri, then for another four or five days you do not need food at all? Because after a while I get hungry again. This cycle of need and satisfaction is a permanent cycle that exists, I can not say that now because that normalization has happened, then the need for instincts is completely satisfied and there is no need to solve it. . This is a natural and instinctive cycle.
“It is not true that everything is normal in the West and there are no problems,” said the psychologist and family counselor. Now what is seen in the West, even in the very normal relationships of men and women, has changed and changed the type of sexual intercourse, what is happening between men and women are not normal processes. The anomalies that are seen in sexual matters, the discussion of the anomalies that occur even between homosexuals, goes so far as to reach sexual issues between humans and animals. So when this pleasure is not satisfied in its place and in the right framework, it is not clear how far it will go, and this causes a series of harms; Harm to women themselves, to men, to the family debate, to all those who live in society anyway, to their children’s educational debates, to their social interactions, this vulnerability is advancing and intensifying. This vulnerability will develop in such a way that no boundaries can be set for it anymore. So man in his relations with other people must always observe this limit, it does not matter that you are like my sister like my daughter, this likeness is not a sign of objectivity and reality of the story, we can not interpret the likeness like this.
He added: “Also, the fact that some people express dissatisfaction with enjoining what is good and forbidding what is evil can be said that any unpleasant feeling does not constitute harm, this feeling is unpleasant, because harm has long-term consequences, for example, when the police fine someone.” Let someone be happy, that initial feeling is the unpleasant feeling of why I was fined, but the consequence is that it prevents a bigger injury. Too often the laws that exist in human society – even the laws that have been codified and put in place to prevent that process – are an instant gratification in which there is no reflection, so there may be excitement. Excitement, pleasure, but behind it is an injury. Or another example; For example, a mother who now sees her child on the edge of the stairs is screaming. Well, the child is scared, it has made him feel bad, but it is preventing a bigger injury. So if we look at it this way, any situation that makes me feel uncomfortable and prevents my immediate enjoyment, then it is a harm, no it is not. It’s an unpleasant feeling to avoid a bigger injury.
The psychologist and family counselor pointed out in another part of his talk: According to the theory of psychologists, we have two types of thinking: objective thinking and abstract thinking. Objective thinking means what we see, what we hear, what we feel, we touch the information entering our brain, which is tangible. Well, as we approach adolescence and enter the realm of adolescence, abstract thinking is formed. Let me give you a simple example. For example, you want to teach a 5-year-old child the concept of justice. What do you do? What does the mother of justice say? The mother says: You and your twin sister are the same age and weight. I will bring an apple, cut it in half and divide it equally between you. Objectively understands the concept of justice. But is it necessary, for example, to give such an explanation to a person who has entered adolescence or an adult about the issue of justice? No. When you say; Justice, however those codes, those connections and connections, come, that framework is formed in his mind. Now about harm as well, when we say it might hurt, it’s everyone, people, families, other gays or even non-gays, they say, did we break anyone’s hand? Did we kill the side? Did we hurt? Yes, it is not an objective injury. But what we see is damage to one’s thoughts, feelings, emotions, and values.
The last point that Amiri said in this conversation was about the role of men in this regard. He pointed out: The duty and role of gentlemen in minimizing these harms is the role of support, which in our religious teachings is interpreted as zeal, which is a good zeal. You see, a woman wants support from a man, social, economic, family, psychological support, men can help and deal with this issue anyway by discussing support – they can do this for their incest, but in society for a colleague, for a woman. Who is crossing the street and accepting his role is the role of the man managing and controlling his gaze. So, if everyone accepts his responsibility and role, we will reach mental health, chastity and privacy. Therefore, the first step is for everyone to accept their role and responsibility, and second, to maintain the boundaries set by God, in any case, he is the creator of mankind. And he is not wrong, he knows us better than anyone. Let us not be intellectually neglected and trust our Creator who created us and advised us to preserve privacy.
It should be mentioned that Cheragh TV program in the third season, airs on Sundays and Tuesdays at around 9 pm on Channel 5 of Sima and discusses a challenge every week.
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