Cumbersome chains of cultural and economic problems on youth marriage – Mehr News Agency | Iran and world’s news

Mehr news agency; Community Group_ Fatemeh Mirza Jafari: His name comes with a smile of regret and a thousand unfulfilled dreams on their lips; Some of them, who are no longer in bondage and, as they say, do not want their lives to get out of the routine, it was not so long ago that there was a light from every alley and back alley you passed and you heard the sound of cheering and cheering for the lucky young man. It could be, the same ceremony away from the luxuries that was the courtyard of the men’s house and one of the rooms was the wedding table and they were building the house of love like two young people drinking water, but gradually the time of marriage is no longer the old color and smell and chains Luxuries, eye-to-eye and economic problems are wrapped around the hands and feet of young people so that forming a family and getting married can be like a dream for young people!

Marriage; It is a simple, unpretentious and unofficial thing during which a man and a woman make a covenant of living together. In our religion, the good tradition of marriage is very easy, simple and far from false and cumbersome customs, which is even the lowest The social classes can also easily form a family and get married according to the criteria and proportions introduced by Islam.

Family formation and marriage is one of the most important events that occur in the life of every human being and therefore it is very important because the core of family formation and the foundation of education of future generations, family is one of the most important environments that play a great role in human development. Therefore, in addition to the strength and stability of the personality of men and women and increase mental peace, marriage will help maintain mental health and spiritual health, and thus society is free from corruption and depression and towards dynamism and Neshat takes a step.

Marriage; It is a simple, unpretentious and unofficial thing during which a man and a woman make a covenant of living together. In our religion, the good tradition of marriage is very easy, simple and far from false and cumbersome customs, which is even the lowest Community classes can easily start a family and get married based on the criteria and proportions introduced by Islam. Regarding the importance of marriage, the Holy Prophet said: “There is no building in Islam that is more beloved to God than marriage.” Based on cultural and economic roots, marriage has become a reality; It is an innovation that has increased the age of marriage and increased social and psychological harm.

Today, the issue of marriage and family formation has become one of the most difficult social issues, because a mountain of problems has risen up against this issue and turned it into a scary issue, which is why our young people, both boys and girls, are longing. They have left the formation of a family and see it as an impassable path, and this delay in marriage has caused false problems in marriage.

The painful point of this issue is the various customs and sometimes mistakes that have doubled the problems of forming a family; For example in some cities of the country our four seasons boy in addition to wedding expenses and bridal gifts; He has to provide a full dowry, or in some other cities girls have to provide a very full dowry to make a living. Unfortunately, he does not know these rich and poor customs, and each of them has somehow fallen into the trap of these wrong customs. A form of luxury and those in the middle class in a different way!

In some cases, there are girls and boys who are obsessed with luxury ceremonies and excessive expenses, but emphasize that they must have several wedding photos and videos, and if you are a little in the middle of the story, you will see that they claim that At the end of the story, they bought a luxury dowry, but they did not leave anything out and they also provided all the unnecessary items.

Divorce growth of 39% last year

According to the Statistics Center of Iran, the number of registered divorces with less than one year of marriage has increased from 2198 divorces in the spring of 1999 with a growth of 39% to 3068 divorces in the summer of 1999; Also, the number of divorces registered in the spring of 1998 with a marriage period of less than one year was 2873, which increased by 11% in three months to 3209 divorces in the summer of 1998. Hence the growth trend of divorce with a marriage period of less than one year from spring to summer in 1998; It was 11 percent, in 1999 it reached 39 percent.

Unfortunately, the number of divorces lasting more than one year in the summer of 1999 has also increased compared to the spring, and the number of registered divorces lasting one to five years has increased from 9982 divorces in the spring of 99 with a 37% increase to 13691 divorces in the summer of 1999. it is arrived.

False customs; A serious obstacle to youth marriage

Mehdi Mottaqifar, head of the Youth Social Planning and Development Office, told Mehr about the statistics of young people who have reached the age of marriage: “Unfortunately, due to the classification in different age groups, we do not have accurate statistics in this field, but according to However, it can be said that 12 million 800 thousand of our young people in all age groups have reached the age of marriage, of which about 10 million are young people between 18 and 35 years old.

The head of the Youth Social Planning and Development Office added: “We had an increase in marriages during the corona outbreak from 1399 to 1400, which is precisely due to the disappearance of luxuries and ceremonies that have created huge costs for our youth and the same cost.” It is a very important point that some of our young people do not go to get married, and we must separate in the direction of this culture and this kind of obstacles, the removal of which does not harm the lives of our young people.

He said: “In other words, holding luxury weddings, giving luxury dowries, expensive gifts will create an obstacle for the marriage of young students or young people who are at the beginning of the work path.”

12 million 800 thousand of our young people in all age groups have reached the age of marriage, of which about 10 million are young people between 18 and 35 years old. Referring to the influence of elders’ thoughts on the cost of marriage, Mottaqifar said: “The prevalence of coronation showed that eliminating costly weddings and parties and spending these expenses for the future of the couple is the most important thing that can be formed, but the influence of elders and their thoughts on elimination These categories are not ineffective.

Asked about the impact of workshops on eliminating costly marriage issues, he said: “Certainly we have very effective workshops in preventing the barriers and harms of divorce, for example in the first six months of this year, 4,500 workshops.” We have held 420 counseling centers all over the country, which are definitely effective, but we believe that we do not have the necessary quality and output, and we should pay more attention to this issue and help empower professors, religious and enrich the content and Islamize the content. do; Also, in counseling centers, by empowering counselors and holding educational courses, we can increase the effects of educational workshops in preventing divorce and promoting marriage and strengthening the family.

The head of the Youth Social Planning and Development Office said: “It is a very important point in the discussion of preventing cultural luxuries, and I think that media products that can create this awareness in the eyes of the people are effective.”

The Social Commission of the Parliament has a draft amendment to the law facilitating youth marriage on the agenda, and we have also had several meetings with this commission to review the draft and resolve the concerns of young people about economic problems; We hope that good things will happen in the marriage of young people, students, scholars, soldiers In response to a question about the actions of the youth deputy to solve the economic problems of the marriage barrier, he emphasized: the social commission of the parliament has a draft law amending the law to facilitate youth marriage on the agenda and we also have several meetings with this commission We have been concerned about economic problems for young people; We hope that good things will happen in the marriage of young people, students, scholars, soldiers, and it is predicted that good services, including the provision of married housing, will help these groups at a young age to form a comfortable life.

Cultural and economic problems; Obstacles to youth marriage

Alireza Sharifi Yazdi, a social psychologist on the cultural issues of young people in marriage in an interview with Mehr reporter on cultural issues of young marriage said: The fact is that the main reason for increasing the age of marriage in the current situation of Iranian society more It’s more cultural than economic.

The social psychologist added: “Of course, this does not mean that cultural issues do not play a role in increasing the age of marriage and the lack of luck of young people to marry, but economic issues have caused people to not have the same ability as before and the cultural aspects of the issue Young people impose, like the provision of billions of dowries and high dowries, that they go hand in hand so that people on the one hand have a longer marriage time and an older marriage age, and those who are hesitant in this matter remain absolutely single and are bound by marriage.

Unfortunately, we are faced with a wide range of definite single men and women because they find that our cultural customs, which come with economic costs, are so difficult that young people clear the face of the problem and prefer to remain single to take it with them. It has different social harms “Unfortunately, we are facing a wide range of single men and women because they see that our cultural customs have economic consequences,” he said. It is so difficult for young people to clear the face of the issue and prefer to remain single, which brings with it various social ills.

Sharifi Yazdi stated: The truth of the matter is that I agree with some of the expenses in the matter of marriage in the sense that many of these expenses are memorable, that is, suppose that in the wedding ceremony, the category of films and photos is not as luxurious or abnormal or Ordinary expenses for a ceremony to commemorate are not a bad thing and can even contribute to the consistency of life in later years to some extent.

He stated: The idea and prescription that there is no category of marriage ceremony and that a girl and a boy live together is not the same as mental reality; The main problem is not the existence of these issues, but the excess in the organization, which increases the age of marriage and delays in it.

Sharifi Yazdi pointed out: “Usually women value these aspects more and the tendency to ceremonies and anniversaries in women all over the world is more according to their mental and psychological characteristics and this can not be ignored, but when it becomes extreme, it becomes difficult.” Is an instrument; This is also the case with weddings, which means that instead of a luxury wedding ceremony, we can take a brief ceremony that both creates memories and avoids exorbitant public expenses.

The first step is to have all the programs and ceremonies in one small shape and image; The next point is that more than we pay attention to these ceremonies, we pay attention to the compatibility and similarity of the couple, whether the two people are compatible with each other or not, because these are the things that make the cohabitation last. In response to a question about how to deal with these false cultures, the social psychologist said: The first step is to have all the programs and ceremonies in one small and compact form; For example, instead of paying several million tomans for a dress, we should do it for a smaller amount, or a wedding ceremony, etc., the next point is to pay more attention to the compatibility and similarity of couples than two people. Whether they are compatible or not, because these are the things that make cohabitation last.

He added: “The next very important point is that the elders should be with the youth in the matter of marriage, not in front of them. Contrary to the mentality of some, the ceremonies and demands are not the wishes of our youth. It has more dignity, which is not rational and should be talked to; But the next issue goes back to our school days, when education from an early age and adolescence explained the facts to young people and sent them to a simple but stable life, the media are not ineffective and can be summed up by showing a simple life And a cultured way solved these problems.