How to keep our love alive? / Skills to keep the warmth of love in life together
Family group: Over the years, in couples, courts and dispute resolution centers, counselors, psychologists, lawyers and judges have seen many couples who, after one to many years of living together, which they themselves believe in, began to fall in love with. They did, but they got nowhere and their business is divorced. Maybe these couples are the ones who did not even imagine from the beginning of their marriage, a life that started with such passion and passion, to work instead of narrow.
One of the reasons for this diminished initial excitement is that couples think that marriage, like other things in their lives, is permanent and will last forever and they do not try to maintain that love.
Let’s make the issue so small, have you ever waited for something, for example, you tried to get a car or a house or anything big or small, but still do not feel satisfied after getting it? For example, you thought that if you continue your education, you are always happy, or you have found your favorite job, you will never get tired and everything will go as you wish, but after a while you will see that everything is normal and it seems not It is as if you were the one who had dreamed of something before.
The same goes for marriage and love, all people get married with enthusiasm, many with great love and passion and excitement think that they have found the love of their life and no longer have any problems and now with love They are together forever, but after a while of living together, they feel that not everything is so dreamy and this love is not going to last forever, even the work of many has led to differences and separation.
One of the reasons for this is that sometimes we think that what we have achieved is forever for us and we stop trying to preserve it. There is a misconception about love and marriage, and that is that we should try to reach our love alone, but when we reach it, everything seems to be over and there is no need to try.
Whereas cohabitation, right immediately after it starts every day, every moment and always requires effort, and this effort is not only material but also an effort to maintain intimacy, a positive relationship and maintain love.
In this report, we try to review some of the ways that make you not give up and your relationship will improve over the years.
1- Tell your spouse about his / her positive characteristics
Try to be narrow-minded. Some people proudly say that we are general idiots and have nothing to do with details. It is wrong for a man and a woman to be meticulous in many matters, especially positive matters. So take advantage of good opportunities and diversify your definitions.
Sentence “I love you” It is always exciting for all couples from the first day of marriage forever. So do not forget it and praise your spouse in any situation. Tell him that It has become very beautiful. The cooking process is excellentا πολύ He becomes handsome and gets younger every day. These sentences are very good and useful, but they are not enough.
-Some other sentences like: I am very happy that you respect my family.
– I feel happy to be in my life.
– I feel good that you get up very slowly in the morning so that I do not wake up, I feel that you are taking care of me.
– You listen to me very well.
– I feel relaxed after talking to you or you.
– This color of clothes suits you very well, you become much more beautiful.
2. Review your relationship
Love and emotional relationships need to be reviewed from time to time. In this review you have to subtract things from it or add things to it. Just like a food that sometimes needs different condiments.
So make a two-person appointment, even if you have lived for years and have children, and these words have passed you by, as you say, but nothing is ever passed on to anyone for the continuation of love. In this meeting, talk to your two people about your feelings and expectations.
Sometimes some annoyances in life pile up, so it is better to seize these opportunities to talk. Example:
– I need more fun in our relationship recently. I wanted to think about this if possible.
Recently, I feel the need to be with my friends and myself for a while, I wanted to talk to you about this feeling.
These cases make the depth of our needs clear and understandable to the other party.
3. Set common goals
Sometimes, after a while of the couple’s life, they see that their common interests are weak, so each person has fun or plans for himself, while this intimacy fades. People who get married usually share certain interests and therefore share common goals.
For example, a couple may like both sports and go to the mountains together, or love to watch movies, but you should be careful that setting new common goals during the relationship will make your relationship out of routine and repetition, and Increase intimacy between you. Example:
What do you want us to learn a new language together?
What do you think about changing our eating style together and eating more healthy foods?
What do you think we should plan for a trip?
4. Pay attention to occasions
One way to keep love alive is to focus on occasions such as holidays, anniversaries, and holidays together.
Buying gifts, celebrating, dating, reminiscing about loving memories, and spending extra time with your spouse will help you both remind yourself of his or her worth and remind you of how much you love and care about him or her. Sometimes even a bouquet of flowers is enough to maintain a romantic relationship. Otherwise, you do not need to spend a lot of money to arrange an appointment with your spouse.
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