Martyr according to the son; During the meetings, the father also paid attention to his mother’s medication! / Untold stories from the life of Martyr Mohsen Fakhrizadeh

Life group; Mina Forghani:These days commemorate the anniversary of the oppressed martyrdom of Dr. Mohsen Fakhrizadeh. In this year, we have read and heard a lot about different specialties and special management style of Martyr Mohsen Fakhrizadeh. But Shahid Fakhrizadeh, who managed super-projects with which several other super-projects were associated, was a completely different person at home in terms of the type of communication, attitude and intimacy. “If someone saw them at home and in the family, they would not have imagined that they were someone whom Israel has wanted to assassinate for 20 years,” said Mr. Hamed Fakhrizadeh, the son of the great martyr.

Some military personnel may be a little dry at home, or they may be so busy that they may not have much time for family. But Martyr Fakhrizadeh was not like that. Their work environment was very different from their family environment. Of course, the scientists who collaborated with him agree that Shahid Fakhrizadeh was a prophetic man and had the power of attraction. Their management style was not commanding or forbidding, and they led more with their hearts.

1) What was the behavior style of Martyr Fakhrizadeh at home and family?

The father had a special look at the mother. We and others were highly recommended to serve and respect our mother. They said, “All I have is respect and service to the mother and then service to the family.” “If you serve your mother and then your family, wherever you are, you will succeed.” One day I was in my father’s office when a colleague came with a box of sweets and said, “Doctor, I got married.” The father said, “Good! Congratulations! But Mr. Boy! be careful! In the house you are always to blame! Whatever happens is your fault! “Even if you feel guilty, your wife is not to blame!” This is how they looked at home and family.

Their red line was their mother. The mother was highly respected. There was such a deep emotional connection between the two, and the position of the spouse was so special to them, that even in the most important meetings of the Security Council, They did not forget their mother’s pill clock and called to remind her. Until recently, I often saw my father doing the dishes and doing the housework. My mother used to say, “It was impossible to leave the house without making tea.” It was impossible for them to walk ahead of my mother.

The martyrs always left the house for two ceremonies, even in the worst security conditions; Ashura and Tasua, and the nights of revival. These ceremonies were always held in the mosque. After the ceremony, they waited on the side of the street for their mother to arrive. No matter what the guards said, they did not get in the car. Until recently, they opened the car door for the mother and did not sit in the car before the mother.

In general, they had a special respect for women, especially mothers and wives, and they always ordered us to do both.

2) How did he treat the brides?

They loved girls very much, but God did not give them girls. Instead, they loved their brides as much as their daughters, and they were just as intimate with them. If they needed to make a point, they would talk very warmly. They joked with them like a father. If issues arose, they supported their brides rather than their sons; It was as if the problem had happened to their own daughter.

3) What points did their sons make in the courtship session?

From our childhood, their upbringing style was not a command or a prohibition at all; The same goes for our marriage. They easily accepted our choice and said, “It is important to have a good relationship and your satisfaction as two people.” In the courtship session, no conditions, restrictions, prohibitions or red lines were set for anyone. There was no bargaining over dowry and these issues at all. Their only advice was to “be patient and help in trouble,” to both sides.

4) Tell us about their upbringing style in your childhood.

The fathers had their own upbringing style. They kept us informed and allowed us to make choices and even make mistakes. They said, “I must not tell you that this is a good thing, that it is a bad thing. Do this, do not do that. I have to teach you how to think and decide on the right and wrong path. It does not matter if you made a mistake somewhere. “Making mistakes is part of the experience.” Like everyone else, we did a lot of things in our youth, from appearances to many other things. Father never punished us and did not even speak loudly with insults or threats. They put us on the path; In the meantime, we made mistakes, but because the fathers tried to teach us how to think and how to distinguish between good and bad, this mistake was quickly corrected.

When Mr. Mehdi and I were 9-10 years old, they would buy us big toy cars, they would give us armatures, gears, belts, pulleys, etc., and they would say, “Turn this car into a control machine.” We would take out the components of this car and control the car with their own guidance, then they would teach us how to make gearboxes using gears so that our car would go uphill. They bought us alcohol lamps, test tubes, human and chemicals to test. Sometimes we burned the carpet during the experiment, but they always created an atmosphere for us to experiment.

5) How was their relationship with the grandchildren?

We have 4 grandchildren between 4 and 15 years old in the family. My father spent a lot of time with his grandchildren. When playing with the last two grandchildren, it is as if three children aged 4-5 are playing. Sometimes my mother was also played with. In the reception of the house, they played in the middle. With that height and physique, they ran this way and that with the children. They put the sofa supports together. They said, “Because the head and the card are with the child, the child’s tongue must be open.” They also communicated with their 15-year-old grandson according to his age and helped him with academic issues. They taught cycling to their grandchildren. Both fathers and grandchildren taught us to ride bicycles.

They were very sensitive about grandchildren and paid a lot of attention to them. Maybe that was the only thing they commanded and forbade us about. If we made a mistake in dealing with the children, they would warn us. For example, they said, “Do not treat a girl like this.” And…

6) If they had free time, how and with whom would they prefer to spend it?

If we were their companions, they would be our companions. But in general, they spent a lot of time with my mother. It was not like they were constantly busy with news and newspapers at home. Most of them watched TV series between 8 and 10 nights with my mother. Of course, it was not like they were planning to get to the series! No; Due to the interest of the family, they sat at the foot of the series, but they were completely together and watched carefully.

One of the hobbies they did a lot in their spare time was gardening. They were very interested in this work. Most of the gifts they gave to others were roses and geraniums that they had cut themselves. There were always maybe 100 small vases in our house to give as gifts to others.

7) How could they get to all their work, family and studies?

Management had a precise time and order. For example, sometimes I would call him and say, “Dad, do you have time to see you for 5 minutes?” They would say, “If it is 5 minutes, come.” “If it’s not 10 minutes.” I would say, “Why?” They said, “Because I promised your mother I would be home at 5:10.” If you take more than 5 minutes, I will be home late. “Your mother is alone and waiting for me.” For example, if when they were at home, I would call them for advice and business matters, they would say, “Look, son John! I’m home now and I have time for your mother. “You are not going to call, take my time!”

Some ask how one can reach this level in philosophy, mysticism, poetry, physics and other sciences? The answer is that if ordinary people have 12 hours a day, and their useful time is, for example, between 8 am and 8 pm, Mohsen Fakhrizadeh had a useful time of 18-20 hours a day. We never saw them doing useless work. Imagine living 40 years, 6 hours a day longer than others. So it is not very strange that he reaches both philosophical and mystical studies, as well as nuclear fields and …

8) What was your hobby in family circles?

We had a lot of fun. We read poetry together, we had philosophical discussions. Sometimes we went on short trips. We saw the series. We went to the forest and nature.

9) What were the moral and behavioral characteristics of Martyr Fakhrizadeh?

They were very humble. If someone saw him with the protection team, he would not think that he is a person who is protected.

They were very critical; Criticism was accepted even from someone with whom they had serious political or religious differences.

They treated everyone with respect and honesty. When discussing, it did not matter to them at all whether the other side is infidel, secular, counter-revolutionary, unveiled or … In a respectful discussion, he tried to convince her. Sometimes we would see them at a family party talking to someone who had a lot of disagreement for 4 hours without being challenged or insulted. They listened to everyone and answered.

They did not have a negative approach. They said we should not throw anyone out like a short-sleeved shirt or pants. Let’s not say, “Because your hijab is not right, go!” “I have nothing to do with you!” They believed that we should first attract people with any appearance, hijab model and beliefs, then try to change them in the right way.

They were very kind, and that was kindness to all creatures. “After the martyrdom of my father, I used to say, ‘The cats in the yard became orphans like us.’ They bought cat food for the cats in the yard. There was always a sack of wheat for the pigeons and yakrims in the yard. Every day after the morning prayer, the cats and birds were fed first.

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