Newlyweds read / How to manage paternal challenges?

Family group: Fathers’ mental health is a much-overlooked issue during parenting. While becoming a father is also a big change for a man and adapting to new circumstances and responsibilities can be stressful for him.

The course of pregnancy, childbirth, and the first days of a baby’s life are unknown to fathers, and they may be confused about it and not know exactly what is right at the time. How does their spouse feel, and what is their role in this?

This confusion may make fathers prefer to withdraw or not think about their own anxieties at all, which in the first place causes more severe anxiety and secondly makes their relationship with their spouse colder, and thirdly in Communicate with your child to experience challenges.

In this report, we discuss ways for young fathers to overcome these anxieties:

** Talk

Your family and spouse are the safest source of emotional expression. Expressing emotions is not only okay, it also shows your high emotional strength and ability. So it is better for women to ask their husbands’ needs and describe their own needs so that they can communicate with each other in a transparent environment.

For example, mothers should ask their fathers: “How are you now?” What scares you about having children? What makes you happy to have a baby? “What do you need fathers to talk about?”

It is true that early in childhood mothers are very busy and in addition to the physical problems of childbirth, they have to take care of a new baby and they may neglect their spouse, but young mothers must be smart and distracted from their spouse. Do not.

** Do not be ashamed of some negative emotions

If you sometimes feel that you do not have the ability to fully understand your pregnant spouse or not, you are not a bad spouse or father. This is a normal feeling. If you sometimes miss the days before you had a baby when you had more time and less responsibility, this is also a natural feeling.

If you’re sad or jealous of your spouse ‘s less attention after you have a baby, it’ s still normal, and finally, if you sometimes need to be alone or spend time with your friends, you’re not selfish, it ‘s perfectly normal. Do not have feelings of remorse and do not call yourself.

But the important thing is, what do you do with these feelings now?

See these feelings first. Do not blame yourself and empathize with yourself. Talk about your feelings with your spouse. Some of these changes require acceptance, such as less time and more responsibility.

But your negative feelings can be alleviated by talking to your spouse and friends, resting, spending personal time with yourself, and getting help from family to gradually adjust to the situation.

* Being a father does not mean that your life is closed

Sometimes being a father makes you think that you can not pursue your hobbies or hobbies and you feel like a captive, and you may even constantly feel bored and withdraw.

This captivity has no meaning outside of your mind, meaning that in real life you still have the freedom and choices you can make. Although your time is not as free as before, remember that every choice causes us to lose things and gain things.

Try to get some positive emotions through communication with your child, but do not completely abandon your own motivations and interests.

** Financial anxiety

One of the most stressful situations in a father’s life is new financial situations. Try to plan financially as much as possible before your baby is born, but if your financial situation fluctuates or changes after the birth of a child, do not hide this change from your spouse, do not be selfish and feel ashamed of the declining financial situation. do not do.

Our living conditions today are such that financial worries do not indicate laziness or lack of effort and strength, so talk to your spouse about financial conditions and see how you can better manage expenses and what solutions are available.

Finally, remember that you, as a parent, can be as vulnerable, anxious, sad or tired as you need to be, and that you need to rest. Give yourself the right and do not be alone in this path.

Other family members also need to change their perspective on a father’s concerns and feelings and empathize more with fathers.

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