The book “Increasing love between spouses; Solutions and Methods “reached the sixth edition – Mehr News Agency | Iran and world’s news
According to the Mehr correspondent, the sixth edition of the book “Increasing love between spouses; Strategies and methods from the perspective of Islam and psychology “by Batool Zahedpour was published in 288 pages by Bustan Ketab Institute.
The family is the first and most important human social institution; Hence, the most fundamental role in the figure Giri It plays the thoughts, ideas, behavior and personality of every human being. This has led to many religious teachings on the importance of starting a family, maintaining it, and the moral and legal duties of spouses.
In this work, the author intends to read religious texts and compare them with psychological sciences and use science classification, which is one of the most prominent classification criteria in education, to address strategies to increase love between spouses.
The present book is based on interdisciplinary studies with a combination of religious and psychological approaches and has pursued two main goals. ; Second, providing loving solutions in the family environment, in three areas: cognitive, emotional and behavioral.
Effect structure
In the first chapter, after expressing the two parts of individual and typical differences between men and women, typical differences in three areas of physical, emotional and mental are examined and familiarity, mutual understanding and acceptance of differences are presented as the main solution in this chapter. Then the role of religious beliefs and its strengthening in increasing affection in the family institution is explained. According to the findings of this chapter, belief in monotheism, prophecy, resurrection and commitment to piety makes spouses more interested in desirable relationships with each other.
In the field of behavior due to the wide range of good and effective behaviors, the most prominent of which are: expression of love, beauty, mutual respect, apology and Excuse meEffective dialogue, cooperation in life, and talent from the counselor are discussed in detail, and commitment to each of these behaviors increases the feeling of satisfaction and love between the couple.
In the emotional field, the two chapters of sexual relationship and emotional intelligence are mentioned and sexual relationship has been studied in terms of the unique position of emotions in order to give this behavior in the emotional field and the necessary principles before, during and after this relationship that lead to increased communication. It is discussed between spouses. This section also examines the causes of cold temper, which is one of the most prominent reasons for the decline of marital affection.
In the chapter on emotional intelligence, the necessary skills in how to recognize and manage one’s feelings and understanding the positive and negative emotions of the spouse are mentioned, and then about the emotion of anger as the main Most The destructive feeling of love between husband and wife is discussed in detail and the causes and strategies for dealing with it are explained.
A slice of the effect
* Couple cooperation
Many men see helping their husbands as contradicting their authority and position in the family, and have misconceptions about the wife’s duties at home, with all the responsibilities inside the home being borne by the wife and their responsibilities only outside the home. Islam’s view is inconsistent with this view of women and believes that a man’s cooperation not only does not destroy his position, but also creates soft and emotional authority. It is necessary for men to pay attention to their wife’s efforts and sacrifices in order to strengthen their sense of cooperation.
When a couple works together to do housework, they also have a better emotional and sexual life. Studies show that emotional support and cooperation are two important factors in life satisfaction.
From Imam Ali (ع) It is narrated that the Messenger of God (ص) They came at us, while Fatemeh Zahra (s) He was sitting near the pot and I was cleaning the lentils. The Imam said: Or ابالحسن! There is no man who helps his wife at home, except for her number مویی That which is in his body, the worship of a year that is fasting during the day and standing in worship at night, will be punished. Or ابالحسن! Whoever does not refuse to serve his family, God will write his name among the martyrs.
About Imam Khomeini (Quds سرهIt is said that he divided the hours of the night between himself and his wife on nights when their child was ill and did not sleep. Also, these days, after school, he would spend an hour playing with the children until his wife rested. He also advised married students in his ethics class: They should not spend their nights studying, but should take care of housework and be with their wives and children, and spend the mornings studying.
Cooperation, regardless of the spiritual reward, has two main messages for the spouse: first, I understand you, and می I know How difficult it is to bear homework. Secondly, I would like to be friends with this little help ام To prove.