The role of the father and the leadership of a community called the family / “kindness” is a custom-recommended trait for fathers

Life group: Being a father is a heavy responsibility that not everyone can handle. This is how one father kills his son’s wishes and goals and the other is the main supporter of his son’s success in the family. The father is the leader and leader of a small community called the family, and his ability to deal with his family has a profound effect on their personality and future. On the occasion of Father’s Day, we talked to Hamed Emami Nejad, a family affairs expert in this regard. The following is an excerpt from this interview.

Following the example of the Messenger of God and Imam Ali (AS)

First of all, we must pay attention to the fact that if we want to step in any field, if there is a great and successful person in that field, we must follow the example of that character. In the field of father and wife being exemplary, we can definitely name the high-ranking and valuable personality of the Messenger of God, peace be upon him and his family, and the Commander of the Faithful, peace be upon him, who are the lasting and superior figures of human society. There is a narration that the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said: “Ali and I are the two fathers of this nation.”

Features that the Imams and the Qur’an recommended to the fathers

Kindness One of the features ordered to fathers. Imam Ali kissed one of his sons in the presence of one of his daughters. “Father John, do you love him?” Said the girl. The Imam said, “Yes.” The girl said, “I thought you did not love anyone but God.” Imam Ali cried and then said: “Love is for God and kindness is for children.”

Dear fathers, please do not ignore the emotional needs of your children!

One of the problems of human society is the apparent and purposeful lack of love. That is, according to the conversations we have with people today. Spending, traveling, and even giving money and alimony to the family are considered love and kindness. Yes, we do not deny that all this is necessary, but it is not enough. One of the characteristics of a pure father and wife is love and kindness. That is, if the father is kind, he must embrace his children and say kind words to them so that the children do not lack love, which, God forbid, causes serious harm.

For example, many of our clients today have the main problem that because they have not seen the necessary and sufficient love in their father’s house, they ask for all the unrequited love from their spouse, which causes the spouse to be harassed, and we see that Spouses also have a crisis in this issue. Therefore, they do not meet the emotional needs of their spouse. Unfortunately, in this situation, we are faced with interpretations of strong dependence, such as glue attached to me and so on.

Do not punish your children!

The problem that has become so worrying in our lives today is that we have forgotten that we are human and that we can make mistakes. We think we have not made any mistakes ourselves. While all of us may make mistakes except the infallibles, peace be upon them. For this reason, the exemplary wife and father are the ones who do not lose their wisdom when they see a mistake made by the members of Annan’s family and do not decide to punish, blame and treat their children and family members. Of course, this does not mean laziness, but intelligent supervision with tact and tact, which is accompanied by forgiveness.

Sometimes, because of a mistake made by a child or a spouse and their misplaced punishment, the label of a sin or mistake stays on the forehead forever and he can never separate it from himself or it takes a long time. This label always affects the behavior of the individual and this is not in the interest of the family and society. The Commander of the Faithful says in a narration: “Anyone who does not neglect many things. “His life is getting worse.”

Take your children and family to heaven

Contrary to popular belief, every father is the manager and leader of a small community called the family. Therefore, he must play an important and fundamental role in guiding his family. In his will, the Commander of the Faithful said to Imam Hassan Mojtaba: “Before your heart becomes hard and your brain gets stuck. “I tried to teach you literature.” God also says in the Holy Qur’an: “O you who believe, protect yourselves and your families from the fire whose fuel is the people.” According to these verses and hadiths, every father is responsible for the paradise of his children and family.

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