What does economic adequacy in marriage mean / What are the criteria for a healthy marriage?

Family group:“Mohsen Abbasi Valadi”, a teacher of the basics of Islamic education and growth in the program “Non-Stop” which was broadcast on the Se Sima network, emphasizing that in marriage, if your economic beliefs and spirits and economic temperaments are compatible, another tenth It does not matter, he reminded: But if your economic moods and beliefs are not the same, even if you are in the same decile, you will still have problems.

Pointing out that in pre-marital conversations and research, we should look for competence, he said in the definition of competence: “My competitor and counterpart is someone who is in line with me in terms of beliefs, morals, beliefs and spirits, if such a person exists.” We were in line with each other in terms of belief and morality, we say we are also Kafu, so I should look for my religious and moral counterpart in the courtship dialogue.

Abbasi Valadi further stated: If we accept that competence means a doctrinal and moral counterpart, then if two people were equal in terms of economic beliefs, that is, neither of them gave money to the character, both believed that having money is not a reason for extravagance. , Their economic temperament was the same and they were forgiving and adaptable to any economic conditions, even if they were not economically fit, they are still economically well-off, that is, for economic well-being, people must be equal in economic beliefs and ethics and think alike. They do not have to be from the same social class.

“But this is the truth and it must be said, and if it is not said it is forgotten and will be known as a wrong word, we have a rule,” he said, stressing that many today may not agree. We talk and we have to say it accurately, even if it covers five or 10 percent of the society, this is the truth and it is explicitly stated in the religion that if a man comes to you for a proposal and you like his religion and morals, give him a wife and His poverty and deprivation should not prevent him from doing this, this is also mentioned in the biography of the Prophet (PBUH).

Abbasi Valadi also clarified: when the two sides of their economic beliefs and spirits are close to each other, they can get married, but if one of them is not ready to enter this life, he must definitely consider economic adequacy as one of the criteria. But if he is not ready, why should he pay attention to it. So economic adequacy is not a principle, and if you are ready to take on its challenges, you can not stick to it.

We are also talking about the reunification of two families. If two families are so influential in their children’s lives that the children are influenced by the families who manage their lives, then the two families must have their own economic temperaments and beliefs.

“I believe that religion is the guide to human life until the Day of Judgment,” he said. I do, when in my religion it is very explicitly emphasized that economic adequacy should not be considered, I also very explicitly and honestly accept it as the law of creation and defend it.

This researcher in the field of lifestyle stated in the end: If in the time of the Holy Prophet (PBUH) these lower and upper deciles did not exist in this way, the truth is that they existed, when such a thing happened at that time and my religion made it the principle. So even today it can be accepted and proposed as a rule that if your economic beliefs and economic spirits and temperaments fit together, the decimal distance does not matter, but if your economic temperaments and beliefs are not the same, even if in one decile Be, you will still be in trouble.

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