Crisis sentences in marital disputes / How can we not be among the unsuccessful couples?
Family group – Zohreh Saeedi: In married life, every couple sometimes has a conversation that destroys or threatens their relationship, we may think that talking is the easiest thing in the world and we are the one who is married with love and never says a word to his wife Which upsets him, but sometimes after a while there are issues that end up saying the same language we always love you, leading to words that cause misunderstanding, mistrust or heartbreak in our spouse.
There are many people who do not know the techniques of a proper conversation with their spouse and not only do not know these techniques, they also use sentences in verbal discussions that bring a simple discussion to the battlefield while normally Perhaps these dialogues should not upset people. Of course, it is always said that talking is better than being silent, because in a marital relationship, if the work silences the parties, it is harder to make that relationship than when people talk and talk to each other.
Some sentences and behaviors should never be mentioned in couples’ discussions, some of which we will mention:
1. Your mother and family are unbearable!
One of the red lines of any person, especially boys, is the family, and specifically their mother, who does not like their spouse to ever insult her. Do not talk, especially since they do not expect their husbands to tell them that they can not stand their mother and family, so women should pay more attention to this point.
2. You do not help at home!
Sometimes women complain to their husbands about being busy both outside and inside the house and nervous stress, but sometimes these complaints become a threat and in this regard, men always accuse them of not helping at home. does not. Instead of talking about it, it is better to explain your mental and physical condition and ask him to help you.
3. I can no longer trust you and I do not love you
Instead of talking and talking in general during the discussion, it is better to never say something that will make you regret it later, as if I can no longer trust you or I do not like you anymore. Of course, after reconciling and talking to each other, it is possible. Do these words still remain in your spouse’s mind and tell him or her whether he or she really trusts me or whether he or she really loved me from the beginning?
4. You do not listen to me
This is one of the sentences that instead of proposing it, you can ask your spouse to listen to you. It is better to explain your situation and say that you expect him to listen to you more even if he has no opinion or can not make any suggestions to improve the situation.
5. You pay little attention to me
Sometimes some indifference on the part of the spouse leads to misunderstandings that turn living conditions into wars and fights. A man who comes home from work tired and thinks that as soon as he eats and rests, he is fine and has provided the best conditions for the family, but his wife has not been able to talk to him for a week or has not been in love with him in such situations. The wife may be gripped by the volcano of her husband, while it is just a simple misunderstanding.
In married life, it is very valuable to make some statements such as that you do not know, do not know, say no or that it does not concern you, and it will increase your courage and also avoid misunderstandings. The fact that sometimes you do not like something but you accept it for the sake of welcoming others makes you upset, so it is better to say at the beginning that you do not like a certain job or trip or program. This frankness will help you a lot more.
** Some secrets of couple success
Some actions and behaviors increase the interest and success of the couple’s life. These things may be very simple and can be discussed everywhere, but there are still many couples who do not pay attention to them, such as sometimes making time for their spouse, things for him Buy, do not forget their appointment, treat their spouse’s family like their own family.
Other such activities and conversations, such as, every fight is not a reason for the couple to separate, commitment to the relationship is very important, saying “I love you” the more, the better, be kind to him when he is sick, in the absence of each other, do housework Avoid making abusive jokes, be punctual, be rude to people who say bad things about your spouse, make him or her aware of your smallest decisions, respond to his or her calls and messages, Ask your spouse how he / she has spent his / her day and do not quarrel while traveling, leave the problems. Do not ruin your travel and entertainment in any way after returning.
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