I am a mother! Who is a “good enough mother”?

Family group Mother is a sacred word in our culture. Sometimes this sanctity goes to the point that if we get tired, bored, need to be alone, ask for help, or have weaknesses at all, we can not talk about it. Fear that others will think we are a bad mother!

Becoming a mother is a big change, a heartwarming and dreamy change! But in addition to these pleasant events, there are also unpleasant changes that we want to talk about today in this report. If you are constantly evaluating yourself and feel guilty, feel that you are not a good enough mother, that you are not feeling well these days and need help, read this report.

Think about these sentences and attitudes.

1. I am a good mother even if I sometimes need leave.

All mothers need to rest. I repeat, “all” mothers, then give yourself the right to think about when you can have it for yourself. Make time for yourself, exercise, go to the hairdresser, buy clothes, go for a walk and achieve your appearance.

2. I am a good mother even if sometimes I do not have the patience of my child.

Parenting is hard work and it is only natural that you get tired of the challenging routine sometimes. Just because your child is sometimes bored does not mean that you are an insensitive mother.

3. I am a good mother even if I make mistakes sometimes!

There is no perfect mother. No one can always act according to the most principled methods of parenting. Never get angry. Always provide nutritious food, his house is always tidy, he is always in a good mood, everyone is satisfied with his methods and his child has no problems, he always has the patience to play and …

So you can not be perfect, you just have to be “good enough”.

Anxiety, depression and chronic fatigue are on the rise in mothers. I consider it necessary for mothers’ mental health to talk about their feelings.

Mental health is very important for mothers, first of all for themselves, secondly for the health of the child and thirdly for the peace of the family.

So a good mom is not a perfect mom. Dear mom, remind yourself that a wrong behavior does not make you a “bad mother”.

Fear of making a mistake causes you to be constantly evaluating and judging yourself and not experiencing a real mental presence in relation to your child. Trying to be a perfect mother makes your mind tired, and tiredness puts you in a cycle of feelings of anger and frustration without knowing the exact cause.

So when you try to be perfect, you get high expectations and mistakes that make you think, “My kids don’t appreciate me enough” or “I put my whole life into it,” so what about myself?

In the end, no one can be perfect. So this fruitless effort only makes you feel guilty and makes you miss opportunities to communicate effectively with your child. Good mother, remember that you just have to be good enough.

Anxious mothers generally have traits that make them forget about things more than before because they have to think about a thousand things at the same time. Second, they do not enjoy enjoyable situations like before and feel tired all the time. Third, they feel pain or cramps in the muscles of their body most days, and they suffer from headaches or digestive problems more than before, and they get upset sooner when dealing with children. And they can not think properly before reacting.

In addition, excessive anxiety, guilt and failure are among their symptoms. These symptoms need to be treated and helped by mothers because not only do they get worse over time and endanger the mother’s mental and physical health, but research has shown that children of anxious parents are more likely to develop anxiety disorders. To be.

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