This weapon slows down the razor / the best revenge for the hard days of life

group Life; نعیما جاویدی: One pure proverb and sentence of the ancients, who in their own time and period acted as a reliever and overcame the hard days of the times with it and constantly complimented it on each other in times of trouble, is this: If the world frowns on you, Do not let anyone down; Laugh until the world laughs at you … and now this sentence has become strange to us and sometimes it even makes you greedy and stubborn. It is enough for someone to tell us this sentence to make a list of our misfortunes and problems for him to realize that he did not make an interesting joke and did not write a good version for us. As the saying goes, this fact is the bottom of our life market and the reality of our behavior in such situations is completely uncensored.

Experience, however, has proved that every time we have driven the train of life with this kind of command, after all, one day, somewhere in the world, it has brought us to our knees and given us its strength. That’s where we decided, whether we wanted to or not, to get up, shake our clothes and start again. How many times have we reached the end of the line and tried to save ourselves again … a sign to the same signs that this old saying is still used today.

Yoga in the style of Rumi’s poetry

What is the solution when the world is hard on us? Sooner or later we have to roll up our sleeves to save ourselves. Many times, in the hope of recovery, we resort to methods such as “yoga”, “meditation”, “centralism” and “mystical miracles” in the manner of non-native instructions. Practices that, with a little more than the same old-fashioned, folkloric, and unprofessional jokes that we mentioned above, want to say that the greatest revenge that can be taken from hard days is to stay calm, cheerful, and laugh at problems. This laughter is certainly not from happiness, but to which document does it bring happiness? Imam Ali (AS) says: “The believer’s happiness is in his face, and his sorrow is hidden in his heart …” Our spiritual and religious literature is the source of beautiful poems, including about happiness, for example, Rumi wrote: “Be happy that every Who knows the secret / knows that happiness, brought happiness …

If we are happy and proud to see a Persian poem engraved on the body of foreign celebrities or to see the expressions, poems and hadiths of our religion on the heads of mansions, in the heart of large urban paintings or wall frames of the houses of the world’s inhabitants How far has our culture gone but why should we pay less attention to it? We have prepared this report with the help of “Nafiseh Hassanzadeh”, a family and job counselor, which is an exercise for relaxation in the native and Iranian style. Techniques that are soul-laughing, free and practical.

Old recipe; New version of treatment

One of the main methods of treating depression that is recommended today in the best psychiatric clinics in the world is “night meditation”. That is, the night before going to bed, review all the tasks of the day for 10, 15 minutes. Give thanks for the strengths and apologize to God for the negative points instead of an internal trial, so that this compensation is a priority in the next day’s to-do list. This technique is somehow self-made and not to say! It is the inner accumulation of negative feelings that over time turns them into a “scraper of the soul” and a factor of spiritual depravity. Now it may not be bad to know that this meditation was one of the main advice of Islam and the Ahl al-Bayt (AS) to us thousands of years ago; The famous phrase “I calculated myself before I calculated …”

“Delay” and desirable deep breathing

And other ways. When we are going through a hard day, we can do physical exercises at the first opportunity that release negative energy. Hassanzadeh says he made a name for himself for the moment; “Spiritual delay”: “Lie on your back in a quiet place such as the office prayer hall, corner of the house or a secluded corner that is not accessible and has good air conditioning, close your eyes. Take a “desirable deep breath” 10 times, ie inhale through the nose and exhale through the nose. If you have a lot of stress, inhale through the nose and exhale with pressure but calmly through the mouth. Then take a deep breath. Have normal breathing for a few minutes. Then take ten deep breaths again and then have normal breathing for a few minutes. Do this cycle for 5 to 10 minutes. The next move is to place the palms, knees, fingertips, and forehead on the floor, preferably on the floor without cover. This is the state of prostration in prayer that increases blood flow to the brain so the brain receives better and more oxygen. Stress impairs brain function. With this and proper blood supply to the brain, you will find relative peace. “The focus and efficiency of the brain is maintained.”

Take refuge in the strongest arms

This young counselor suggests several ways to increase inner vitality after the phase of discharging negative energy and stabilizing the mood during difficulties. Practices that, in his own words, “pass the test” are: “Touch nature, touch the leaves of a flower, the trunk of a tree. Give water to a pot thirsty, pick the yellow and rotten leaves. Wipe the dust off the leaves. Go to a place where you can hear the birds. Walking in a park and taking deep breaths really helps. On difficult days, plan to walk 10 minutes to an hour. Forgive yourself and others and seek the right compensation. Be sure to pray. This is in addition to the religious commands and the five daily prayers. “Mention dhikr in times of nervousness, seek refuge in God and leave everything to Him. Even non-Muslims know well that the omnipotent power of the universe is God, so take refuge in Him.”

“Laughing at life on hard days is hard, but it is possible. It starts with a small smile, small good habits and gratitude, and goes to big changes; having a sense of self-satisfaction and living even in the height of hardship. “Laughter slows down the razor …”

Small family therapists

If you have a small child in the family, be sure to spend time with him. The pristine and innocent world of children makes you happy. Sometimes the wrong and salty pronunciation of a word by your child will charge you up to a week, you must have experienced it or heard it from others. Do not stay in an environment for a long time. If you are employed, do not live permanently. Under the pretext of drinking tea, opening a window or watering a pot, move around. Hide your eyes from the monitor for at least 2 to 5 minutes every hour and look at the view behind the window, or if there is no window, close your eyes and listen to natural music such as the sound of wind, waterfall and water with your eyes closed. Read the Quran, book or poem. In short, eliminate physical stillness and vision.

Learn so you don’t get worn out

But what other small but effective things can be done, Hassanzadeh says that these small things, like a skilled, professional and unassuming therapist, improve a person’s performance and mood, if done regularly and on time! He suggests other ways: “Eat at least 2 or 4 meals a day, 7 days a week, yellow flakes, lean meats, soups, stews or … Try raw foods such as bread. And dates, cheese and vegetables. Vegetable salads, green sandwiches, etc. Do not forget the miracle of learning.

Man is intelligent, that is, when he does not use his abilities properly or is not updated, he feels lethargic and depressed. “We are always learning whether to learn how to sew or an embroidery stitch or to learn a computer trick or a new game or how to make a craft …”

Qarun does not beg

Hassanzadeh says about works that have a double good feeling or in other words “spiritual synergy”: “Let’s do good deeds for others without mercy. Unknown help is the best way if we think we will get rid of hypocrisy or subsequent plagues. Not harming others and raising the threshold of understanding and not being offended by others is also a pure good and a great blessing. Or in the words of Hafiz (pbuh): “The comfort of two universes is the interpretation of these two words / with the friends of Marwat with the enemies of tolerance …” The tongue of the unseen sings the fruit of this verse a few verses later “Cain, the alchemy of the universe, begs the beggar …”

Ring the fun bell at home!

“Take the power of a smile seriously. Do not look at others with a frown, nervousness or curiosity, so that at least if we do not receive a smile, we do not get negative energy. This is a universal advice and Hassanzadeh has a way to laugh on hard days that are not easy:” Follow files, funny sentences and happy programs. Let’s not grieve between the list of sad songs, painful Instagram posts or … Do we not have the opportunity to laugh? Let’s build. Without any excuse, we can take home some seeds, chocolate or whatever we can and call this period “Laughter Hour” or “Fun Bell”. Let the children be mischievous and playful at that hour. “Keeping away from the cell phone, homesickness for the family, experiencing a sense of interest and value for the family, and boosting a healthy self-esteem and self-confidence are some of the blessings you have come up with.”

Good prayers instead of moans

He has other ways to promote inner vitality: “Praying good for others, especially those who do bad things for us, is far more effective and soothing than cursing and moaning. Painting, cooking and photography usually make you feel good. Be well-groomed, sloppy house and appearance, jump of thought. We usually have the experience that a device in a crowded house gets lost and everyone gets nervous for a few minutes. The more we interact with positive people, the more negative weavers become. We are not where they talk behind other people’s backs. “God is not pleased with these gatherings. On the other hand, it intensifies the feeling of distrust, insecurity and negativity.”

Shaker does not become miserable

Along with Thanksgiving, misery is impossible. The sentence is noteworthy, and the counselor says of it: “Thanksgiving begins with sugar for big things and ends with pleasure and happiness even for small things, that is, the good state of life. The grateful person is not a herdsman and does not waste his energy on criticism and despair. Gradually, it becomes an example: “Sugar of blessings, increase your blessings / disbelief, bring blessings out of the cup …” Laughing at life in hard days is hard but possible. It starts with a small smile, small good habits and gratitude, and big changes; Having a sense of self-satisfaction and living even in the height of adversity. As the old saying goes: laughter slows down the razor …

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