What are the 6 main elements of inaccuracy in couples’ relationships / solutions – Mehr News Agency | Iran and world’s news

According to the Mehr correspondent, Hojjatoleslam Asghar Hadi, in a scientific conference on “Inaccuracy in Couples’ Relationships, Reasons and Solutions” from the series of “Sustainable and Efficient Family with Islamic Approach” organized by the Theological Research Institute and the Family of the Islamic Propaganda Office of Isfahan He stated that there are 35 examples of inaccuracy: lies, expedient lies, empty promises and false promises, hypocrisy, betrayal, flattery, embezzlement, slander and censorship are among these cases.

Referring to various jurisprudential and narrative views, sociological, moral and psychological in the subject of lying, he added: “During our research, we came to six main elements in the discussion of lying as an inaccuracy in families.”

A member of the faculty of the Theology and Family Research Institute stated that peaceful lying is one of the most common types of lies in relationships between couples to establish and maintain a relationship, which of course has different types. It is used to repair couples’ relationship.

What is relationship-oriented lying?

Hujjat-ul-Islam and Muslims Hadi considered relationship-based lying avoidance as another type of lie in couples’ relationships and said: “In this case, one couple lies to the other to avoid a bad relationship and form a good relationship with the other party because he believes Otherwise, the husband or wife finds out about something that causes bitterness in their relationship.

He stated that the second main reason for the misconduct between the couple is in order to maintain the person in the relationship, he said: In this case, the couple wants to maintain his credibility with his wife and does not intend to tension and his behavior is peaceful.

A member of the faculty of the Theology and Family Research Institute introduced self-correcting lies as the first type of self-preservation inadequacy and stated: With this type of lie, a person wants to restore his credibility with his wife.

Exaggeration, flattery and ostentation of spouses

Hojjat-ul-Islam and Muslims, Hadi, considered self-avoiding lying and exaggeration and flattery as the second and third types of inaccuracies in couples’ relationships and said: Expose yourself to your spouse and there is no intention to repair the relationship.

He introduced the hostile lie as the fourth type of inaccuracy that leads to the destruction of the couple’s relationship and stated: not only does he not intend to repair or maintain the relationship, but also the husband or wife wants to destroy the relationship and create problems and sometimes It happens that couples have decided to separate from each other.

The faculty member of the Theology and Family Research Institute continued by stating that a biting lie is a part of a hostile lie: a lie of hatred توزانه Another swearing is revenge mode Giri He has a wife and he wants to create a problem for his wife with the help of others, and dowry problems can be good examples of this kind of lies.

Hujjat al-Islam wal-Muslimin Hadi called the final lie the third part of a hostile lie and added: “Sometimes men use lies to escape their obligations to their husbands, such as opening another woman’s leg in their lives so that the husband can not bear it.” Take action to stop living together faster and waive your rights.

Self-loathing and imbalance in the relationship

He introduced self-loathing and imbalance in the relationship as another type of wrongdoing and said: “Some couples go to lie because of their problems, which include fear, mental imbalance, personality instability and feelings of insecurity.” The problems are internal and the person wants to create security for himself through this type of lying.

The faculty member of the Theology and Family Research Institute added: “Usually, women are more exposed to this lie and act on this lie due to pressures such as economic dependence and endangering social status, as well as, for example, in families with patriarchal relations.” Men lie to maintain their position and imbalance.

Officials lying; Factor Spread Inaccuracy to the center of families

Hojjat-ul-Islam and Muslims Hadi considered social factors as the sixth and last main reason for couples to lie and said: Cultural issues and problems in the family environment are the first type of social factors, sometimes there is an atmosphere in the family that causes lying and sometimes the same atmosphere prevails in A person’s family causes the husband or wife to lie in front of the spouse before marriage and inheriting it.

He used the evidence and denials by the couple against the atmosphere of the family as a factor for lying. ها He said: “Cultural and educational issues in society are the second type of this kind of lies, and lies such as the lies of officials in society, affect families and cause couples to lie to escape responsibility, and this environmental effect has its own Shows in couples relationships.

A member of the faculty of the Theology and Family Research Institute divided the solutions to eliminate lies in the family into two types, collective and individual, and stated: Education and dissemination of moral values ​​in society is a collective preventive solution. It is a couple.

The danger of turning denials into values ​​in society / preventing the ugliness of denials from being broken

Hojjat-ul-Islam and Muslims Hadi considered the spread of the culture of using counseling services as another necessity of society and said: Teaching moral values ​​to couples is very important, which has no place in our society, increasing public awareness of moral values ​​through the media can be Prevent inaccuracies.

He considered it very important to prevent inaccuracies in society and said: “Unfortunately, lies are becoming the norm in our society and denials are becoming values.”

A member of the faculty of the Theology and Family Research Institute introduced the obstacle to achieving success through inaccuracies as a way to prevent the spread of inaccuracies in families and said: جوری Let us behave so that the deniers cause shame and disgrace to the people in the society and the norm-breakers are looked down upon.

Hojjat-ul-Islam and Muslims Hadi, stating that one of the purposes of enjoining the good and forbidding the evil is to create a culture so that the ugliness of the evil is not broken in society, said: If this culture is institutionalized in society, then we can achieve the desired result Let’s reach.

The need for legislation to deal with liars

He considered the negligent and peaceful treatment of criminals and norm-breakers in the society as an important factor for the denials to become good in the minds of the people of the society and said: even the law of our country should be such as to punish the liar, which unfortunately is not the case.

The faculty member of the Research Institute of Theology and Family, stating that the treatment of internal defects and self-purification are other solutions, said: Strengthening religious knowledge and self-awareness and trust and recourse and avoidance of evil and death and contemplation are all solutions.