Family group Parents’ reactions to children getting angry and nervous at different ages are different. Some, like children, retaliate, and they get nervous and shout. Some are indifferent, but there are some parents who can calmly calm their children, without getting angry, they know ways to help calm the family.
Causes of nervousness and anger in children vary according to their age. Some babies become nervous, restless, cry, and throw objects when their needs are not being met. Some, however, become angry or restless at older ages in order to achieve their other desires.
If you, as parents, can not calm down your children’s nervous behaviors, these behaviors will later take the form of violent behaviors in the community, divorce, various diseases, low education, drug addiction, or in the worst case, crime and Other negative issues become. Many psychologists believe that most of the crimes that occur in adulthood originate in childhood.
So parents should be able to calmly respond to the child’s nervous and aggressive behaviors and have the right upbringing. Regardless of what makes children nervous, here are some ways to calm nervous children:
1. Use storytelling
In younger nervous children, you can tell a series of fictional stories or read stories that are about, for example, a child who argued with everyone a lot and upset everyone, so no one is with him anymore. He is not liked, so he decides to change and …
Children soon put themselves in the place of the protagonist. Of course, it is better that this storytelling is not accompanied by issues such as the child going to hell, or being beaten, or fears that cause great phobias in adulthood, such as fear of animals, taking Lulu, and other things.
2. Groaning chair
But another way is to put a chair in a corner of the house and name that part: “grunting chair”. And tell him that whenever your child gets nervous, he should go and sit there, because he has no right to grumble, shout, get angry and angry anywhere in the house, but he can get angry and shout in that chair.
3. Do not react to his anger
Another solution is that when your child is nervous and screaming, try not to react and tell him: I do not hear loud noises at all, if you want to say something, come and sit down so that we can talk quietly. This is a solution for children who have reached an age where they have the power to understand things.
In this way, the child learns that he does not achieve his desires by shouting and must control his anger.
4- Using anger control methods
There are a number of anger management techniques that are also used for adults. So when your child is angry, you can use some of these methods to control his anger.
It’s like giving him a piece of paper to shred or giving him a balloon to inflate and burst. Of course, you should not reprimand him for eating paper and popping balloons, because these methods are a way to control physical and mental anger.
** Children’s role models from parents
It is obvious that one of the reasons for children’s aggression is their learning and imitation of adults, especially their parents. Children who have parents with nervous and aggressive temperaments generally become like their parents. It should not be taught, but it is a role model when they see their parents’ violent behavior, they certainly become aggressive. So the next point is for parents to work on themselves and stop these behaviors.
** Anger management skills
Anger management skills were discussed above, but it is better for parents to be role models for their children. It is better not to expose children to your past and present problems and show them how you manage your anger in critical situations. When you get angry somewhere, explain to the child that, for example: I got angry because the car in front stopped suddenly or said something bad.
Talking about your feelings allows your child to talk about his or her anger, instead of venting it in the wrong way.
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